[fiona12scott]

I’m sorry I’ve taken ages to write back. There doesn’t seem to be any reasoning with him. Still lying all the time. If he wants to do drugs I wish he would Just leave us alone.

[fiona12scott]

When he was in rehab, most of the time, he seemed really interested in getting better and joined in with all the groups and activities that they did.

There isn’t anywhere else he can go. My Step father won’t allow him to stay at my Mum’s house. My sister can’t have him at her house because she has a little girl. There’s just no way out, I’m totally and utterly stuck with this. There’s no hope left. At least before rehab, it was always in my mind that if we ever could afford rehab he could be fixed but now we have tried that and it hasn’t worked (I can’t be fully sure that he’s using but it’s the only thing that makes sense) so there’s nothing left.

I’m so sorry, I must sound so gloomy. I think I have completely lost myself.

[fiona12scott]

Hi

thanks for writing back. All ultimatums have been broken already. When he first came out of rehab the rules were:

– he must go to 3 meetings a week

– he must have his benefits sorted

– he must be having counselling

He wouldn’t go to the counselling from the start and the 3 meetings a week soon dwindled to 1. When Covid happened he didn’t want to use zoom and I do understand that; I’ve found work meetings in zoom very weird.

It’s just that he won’t tell the truth. The aggression happens if I won’t give him money; it is his money but I’m looking after it (as he asked) so that he can get a place to live if his own. He doesn’t need any money, he has food etc. He can’t account for £400 of his wages and will not tell us where the money is gone. At first he said we should trust him and now he’s just saying it’s not our business. He’s threatened to take my car and other belongings because I have £300 of his (to save for a house)

It’s just the worst thing. Before rehab he wasn’t himself anymore and people were threatening him and his family. I really thought everything might be ok after he had lost everything and then had learnt, at rehab, how to stay clean but I think he will always go back to drugs and now I’m completely stuck because he’s in my house. I can’t just make him leave, he has nowhere to go. I’m sure everyone says it but he is not a bad person really. He’s very intelligent and kind but he is also a liar, a bully and a thief. It’s affecting my whole life and changing me.

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