[fitz1991]

Hi Debc,

I really appreciate your reply, and it’s interesting to hear your son admit that recovering addicts are and have to be selfish at this time.

Unfortunately my partner broke things off last weekend – it was explicit but his last message was very hurtful and he has spoken to me since (a week now). I’m utterly heartbroken about it, and managing a lot of guilt about it.

I’ve not reached out since last Saturday, in the hope that if I give him enough space for a while, he might come back when he is ready… I hope he does.

I hope your sons recovery is going well – he is lucky to have such great support.

Good luck to you both x

[fitz1991]

Hi!

I see this was posted back in May – is your situation still as it was?

I’m soo glad I found your post though, as I am going through a very similar situation & searching for answers.

My partner is only 2 months out of detox atm though. About the same time we got back together after a 2 year separation. It started off with lots of golden hopes and dreams, promises and honesty, adoration and love. 3 weeks after we we got back together and things started to fall apart.

He’s distant, makes very little effort. We aren’t physically intimate but that’s ok for now – it’s the emotional intimacy that has really diminished, and I’m tired of being the only trying…

He’s so defensive when I bring it up though, and says I’m reading too much into his behaviours right now. It’s exhausting. But now we are at breaking point – if not past it and it’s heart breaking.

If you managed to overcome your situation or it got better, please advise how…

Wishing you all the best!! X

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