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What happens when the person in recovery is non religious and in fact it is possible that some of anxiety issues that cause the drinking are as a result of a guilt ridden Catholic upbringing?
I know exactly how you feel – I am in almost the same position tonight except my partner did go through rehab and was sober for 5 months. 18 months later we seem to be back to square one and I on the verge of ending our five year relationship. Foolishly I moved from one end of the country to the other with my daughter thinking I was beginning a new life with a lovely kind honest man. Within weeks I discovered he was drinking behind my back and have been trying to deal with a less than perfect situation ever since. I am so ashamed I didn’t spot it before I decided to move us in with him. The promises are always there to stop for us but it doesn’t happen. He even lost his job through drink driving and that didn’t stop him. I thought things were proving around March time when he started seeing a new councillor (3rd one) who he seemed to relate to more but but the lasting has been awful. Trouble is I do love h and when sober he is kind, funny & loving. My daughter adores him though she knows he has a drink problem. She is aware he has started drinking again but not the extent. I am feeling I can’t cope with it anymore and have spent the evening working out my finances to see if I can as him to leave. I am ashamed I have putyself and my daughter in this position so cover it most of the time. I have recently discovered he has been emailing old girlfriends which he claims he did when he was drunk but at least I have a reason to give yup people if I ask him to leave. I feel very sad too as without the drink he is a good person and there was great potential for us as a family. He has a daughter too and I feel bad for her as she has really benefited from us being up here and the two girls get on great. I really feel it is the end now though.