Your story sounds very familar – my son is only 18 but uses cannabis and coke. He also is involved in the selling of drugs and it about to be charged with ‘intent to supply’. My family has almost been destroyed over the last 10 months and we have given him so many chances and support to try help him. Although I know I cannot fully turn my back on him – I also know he has to be the one to help himself. My husband and I both go for counselling to help us deal with whats happened to us and our son. I really feel for you and your husband – the only advice I can give is join support groups and it really helps to share. Sorry but I don’t think there is anything we can do to help our sons – just be there if they want to change.