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Hi lexi, I really feel for you. I’m too in a similar position. Although I’m not married we don’t have kids we have a few between us.

I’ve noticed an escalation in use in my partner who’s done this for years. However makes me think he’s was doing far more but his it better than he does now.

They become selfless and selfish for it. I’ve read so much on addiction and they say it’s a diease and that they can’t stop once craving kicks in. Doesn’t matter about how much they love you or the kids everything else becomes irrelevant.

I find that difficult to swollow.

I think the hardest part is getting them to see there is a problem. Then suggesting help….im still at the problem phase. I get all excuses it’s not an issue I can take or leave it. I can control it…. it’s all lies, I’ve wanted to believe but it’s not true. It’s not daily use, co not co dependant but it’s now exalted weekly (especially on the weekends).

Makes me sad as plans get missed, and the eventual come down, he turns to a lot of alcohol and moody vile kicks in. It’s aconstant cycle.

Yours seems early so try to nip it in the bud maybe have a chat with him recognise it’s heavily affecting your family. See what he says. Suggest help avenues….

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