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I’m so glad you managed to find the strength to end things and took your self worth seriously.
I hope you’re doing well now, I’m sure there will be a lot of complicated emotions to work through.
Personally I’m on a massive healing journey after all I experienced. I’m doing therapy, rebuilding my self esteem, learning my values and boundaries so that I’m well equipped for future relationships.
Good luck 🙂
I feel you, sending big hugs. Know that you have to do what’s right for YOU long term and there’s nothing to feel guilty about if you need to step away from him.
I came back to say that I recently contacted a charity about my ex’s drug use. Even though I’d left the relationship they were really great and I will be eligible for support which surprised me! If you’re in England the charity is Drugfam. I contacted them initially and they were super nice but can’t help me as I’m in Scotland. Scottish equivalent is SFAD. I would encourage anyone battling with this to get in touch with either charity – whether you stay in the relationship or leave. It’s important to speak to people who understand addictions and won’t judge you or your partner.
About the conversation – you need to be super clear. I tried once and he found a way to squirrel out of it/keep me sweet for a few more weeks. Another thing addicts are really good at as they’re really well practiced…
I feel like I’m reading my own words before I ended my last realtionship.
I dealt with it because I truly loved him when he was “good” and he was a really great guy with so much potential. We had so much fun together. I didn’t see the extent of his problem. It’s come to my attention that he was lying about his cocaine use while I was with him. Your “don’t rush over” story triggered me a bit as he said that to me all the time – was he picking up? Another probably to add to the long list of days he claimed to be straight. He was a top class liar as I thought I recognised when he was high and when he wasn’t – but clearly not.
I promise what you see is the tip of the iceberg. And if I have any advice it’s to get out before you get in too deep – or worse – like I did – start using too.
It’s so difficult to come to terms with the fact that someone you love is lying to you. I think that’s been why breaking up with him was the worst heartbreak of my life. I know he’s worse too – saw a pic of him on a mutual friend’s social media and it looks like he’s not eaten all month. This gives me huge amounts of guilt.
If he had even admitted to having a problem and wanted help, I totally would have helped. But he didn’t…
It took for him to seriously let me down and prioritise an opportunity to take drugs, when I needed him most, to actually end things.