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Currently I remain with him I know my head tells me to leave as what am I doing staying? I see it as enabling when I learnt what it was all about but when it comes to matters of the heart and because I do really love him I stay, ive never taken anything ever so I had to learn myself what the behaviours are to drug addiction I asked him to stop he agreed and Foolishly on my part realised it doesn’t work that way and they will say they will but not, I’m at the point now that I want him to loose everything job home stability and have nothing to be at rock bottom as I believe while they still have I.e you job home it will never change or make them reevaluate there life, currently I am in the relationship but I dont think I will be for much longer if am honest with myself he tells me he loves me but he can’t seem to put that into action which they seem very good at words mean nothing actions speak more and unless he does I cant see a future nor would I want that kind of future, I believe my partner has done it for the entire 2 years of our relationship and hid it rather well up until the last 8 months.
Can relate to the manipulation they will literally take your last for it as crack is highly addictive, my partner will make me feel guilty if I also say no they will play you like a fiddle for it as they will do anything for it, my partner works and its almost like he doesnt as he never has money he would never talk about finances I originally before I found out throught he was just a scrooge but it isnt its the drug taking it swallow up every penny they have, they don’t realise how hurtful soul destroying it is for us, they will leave you feeling empty its exhausting luckily no children involved for me which is a blessing but its sad that I more than likely will never get the life I dreamt of with him he is still in active addiction but he will tell me he isnt doing it I know full well this isnt the type of drug you can just cold turkey and stop with hes still lying to protect his habit.
Hi there I can relate to your story on the same substance use my boyfriend of 2 years is also a crack addict it wasn’t clear to me to begin with I suspected he used cocaine as a recreational user but to my horror it was crack! There was red flags from the start but I foolishly believed I could change him this is not the case, I dont live with him and when hes using I barely see him he will go off and I feel nothing but neglect all I ever hear is I love you no actions only words that mean absolutely nothing, I’ve ended the realtionship quite a number of times but I always find myself back because I’m afraid I love him I wish I didnt but I do and im at the point now where I need to think with my head instead of my heart and its telling me walk away cut him off let him be and let him discover tough love if he comes back and wants help great but if not thats what am scared off that the outcome isn’t what I hope for and im left hurt broken, they lack empathy from what I can tell you they con you to believe they not doing it they lie continuously its a horrible place to be in as a partner im here to speak to you because I’ve been on here for a while and I couldnt bring myself to write my story however I take comfort in the fact that we have eachothrr support and advice.