[harshtruth]

Why would you let your life revolve around his yes and no’s? Think about it. He’s deciding the way forward. The only way forward for you is to make one decision and stick to it. Unless you distance yourself from him, you won’t know the clarity of the situation.
You’ll love again, and this time get it back, in its entirety. Don’t let your heart break again and again by being with this person.

[harshtruth]

You’ve been very brave for carrying this habit around for years, for your husband. Sometimes for the sake of love and stability, we put up with so many things in our partners – some are reasonable and possible but some we make us lower our own standards of living.

If you have the resources to seek an alternative path, I would say separate and don’t let the remaining years of your life be spent in resentment witnessing something that is killing you everyday. It’ll be hard but staying with a partner who is absent isn’t any better.

I have suffered with a similar partner for 8 years, and now that we have a child he has gone to doing cocaine once a week along with marijuana every night before sleeping. The marijuana was still affordable but the cocaine has eaten our money, our life, our minds. I love him, he’s the only man I have ever been with, but I had to get perspective and a grasp of reality – the harsh truth that my husband has an addiction, and I can either spend my whole life hating and loving him and being suspicious or invest that time in making my life and my child’s life better.

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