[helen40]

Hi ya, I feel I’ve been where you are. I felt like I tried every avenue to try and support my drinking husband…shouting, monitoring, soothing…. I lost myself. I didnt start to acknowledge this wasn’t the path. I went to Al anon which was the first time I admitted it was out of my control. I have a daughter and sadly clutched onto the idea we could be a happy family. I’ve not got tonnes of things right but detaching helped my sanity. Still I clutch at a hope but my relationship has fallen apart, since I’ve tried not to manage the situation. I’ve not the answers you want but would encourage a support group to guide you to whats normal and whats not. Just don’t lose yourself to something you cant control. I hope for your family you find a future you want.

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