[helga]

Hi

Has he admitted to what level he has a problem?
is he still fully functioning in work/ home life?
I am navigating this myself at the moment..

I’m hearing a few things which I need to practise.

you cannot control the addiction

know your boundaries and make them clear to him

do not become the enabler

Are your finances on the table to see?
just a few thoughts. I have no answers as I’m searching for them myself xx

[helga]

Is he guilty or more worried about hiding it?

The times he’s done it – I don’t think he feels guilt anymore he’s just interested in hiding it?

[helga]

If he really gave a crap he would be begging you at the doorstep.

Do not settle for less

Your children and you deserve more.

It’s hard now but it will get better.

My daughter is 5 and already saying “daddy doesn’t exercise he’s just drunk”

Don’t let them witness it x

[helga]

I think from my experience working in the city working and living where I do, cocaine and alcohol abuse is normalised….

There is more people doing it than not… no kidding…

Everyone on it thinks everyone is doing it and so it is ok. (It isn’t)

If you aren’t confident then you tell him so. If he doesn’t accept this then you involve his family – out him on his ways (as long as he hasn’t got anything to throw back in your face) failing that, speak to social services or have meetings together with your baby so you always have the control and assurance x

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