[hockley]

I really feel I’ve let him down but he was out of control It was the most devastating decision to make him leave…I had him bk for 12 MTHS and it got worse i feel so guilty that I just couldn’t fix him …Its like ground hog day with him n I feel you with the exhaustion with the arguments etc your doing so well to be strong I lost the strength n I feel guilty for it every day..I really don’t know what is the right or wrong way to deal with it?

[hockley]

I will thankyou

[hockley]

Thankyou so much I really feel I’ve totally let him down…I’ve not spoken to him for a couple of weeks because he yet again lied and cheated me with his denial …I really don’t know why or what to do I’m broken I can’t get through to him it’s like he lives in a make believe life and I’m his mum he doesn’t have to with me…I’ve lost him but I don’t want to loose him if that makes sense….my heart has hope from your story I will try and access the people you have sent but I’m pretty useless at technology etc… I really appreciate your msgx

[hockley]

Hi thankyou for the msg unfortunately I have gone further than yourself and did at first saying no weed in the house but he had an annexe to the house n just did it there or went for a “walk”..he then got a drug debt and i ended up answering the door to one of the men….and then we had two late night break-ins in the back of the annexe..police involved and his tray n parafanalia was in there…do you get the aggression and the denial especially the one that it’s not addictive?? I have other younger children and they were put on the at risk so I had to throw him out … honestly there is do much more I can tell you how long has it been going on with your son,?

[hockley]

Hi unfortunately I’m afraid to give you advice as over the last4yrs I feel I’ve been to hell n bk n still there…yet I can’t get it right for him. He doesn’t live with me as he’s put my youngest son under a safeguarding issue n I admire you for being able to have a relationship with your brother .I really wish I could help you but by all the resources out there I don’t seem to be able to get it right but I hope one day they both admit to themselves honestly (it’s the deceit I think that’s worse than the addiction) that they have to change noone can do it for them unfortunately. Again apologies I don’t have any real advice .

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