[holly01]

Thank you for your advice. You have sure given me hope and guidance.

I really hope things work out for you and you manage to persuade him one way or another. I am single parent and I was really stuck from the past three years.

What really worked for us putting his biggest fear in front of him.

He is scared of being homeless due to his OCD he constantly washes his hands raw to bleeding point, showers multiple times a day. He can’t imagine life without soap and water married together.

It is cruel to emotionally use someone’s fear against them, all was done in good faith. I have used I am going to kick you out multiple times now and its worked every time.

Rehab or get out

Moving him back into the house from garage where he was isolated.

Making him stay in the rehab until he completed his steps.

If he smokes Weed again he is out.

Kicks off again he is out.

Far too many times now so yes now I have to stop and give him time and space. He is doing okay.

I am his mum I love him and always will. One day he may realise.

All the best to you and please update how you get on. It is always good to share.

[holly01]

Hi Desperate92

Thank you for taking the time out to read my post.

I am sorry to hear what you are going through. It must be tough for you specially doing a Masters degree and working a full time job.

Working/Studying may be exhausting but you should feel proud of yourself for not giving up and god bless one day it will all pay off.

I can totally understand going in circles and trying to get help and not getting it. What I understood is no one can help unless the person themselves want to come off drugs.

Things went to far with my son I was so stressed day and day out, living with him was not easy. I was scared of my own son imagine that. I did not know what was going on with him in his mind. He just wanted to kick off using any excuse telling me I destroyed his life, I am to blame.

That bong of his, vape pens the grinder and weed all went in the bin before he came home from the rehab. I told him its gone and I don’t ever want that stuff in my house again or your out.

The stories I read from other peoples experience with their loved one’s being on weed were similar to everything they wrote about behaviours. Anger, mood swings, blame game, victim you name it.

It has been two weeks since he has been back from the rehab. I would not say his behaviour is totally normal he has been off the weed for almost 3 months.

I am not sure about his mental states as yet. He is not kicking off and I am hoping he doesn’t. I Still find he is slightly a bit paranoid about things and makes petty remarks. I think it could be down to having smoked excessively.

I am hoping as time goes by his personality will change more to the normal side, I think it could take several months but I am not sure, only time will tell now from experience. Or perhaps someone can shed some light on this who has been through similar situation who’s loved one has come of weed and knows better.

All the best with your fiancé I hope he comes off weed.

[holly01]

I certainty feel so much better since my son has gone into rehab. It has been so peaceful in my house.

Sometimes you get to the point where you have no option but to be firm and stand your grounds, my fear of losing him if I threw him out has gone.

He is still in denial and wanted to quit rehab, but really that is the best place he can be right now.

I made it quite clear to him he can quit the rehab if he wants but he will not be coming back home. It is the rehab or he is out on the streets. So he took the option of staying there longer. I have made it clear to him if he is coming home there is a zero tolerance policy in my house from now on.

He has to change if he wants to come back home.

[holly01]

Hi Ty85

I just read your post my deepest condolence to you and your family.

I did not read your pervious post, but after reading this post I read your earlier post. It is extremely sad to hear this.

Losing a loved one is very very hard. May god help you and please try and remain strong in this difficult time.

[holly01]

Hi Icarustrust

Thank you for your reply. I will make contact with this organisation very soon.

Currently we have extended his stay in the rehab.

Thank you for taking the time out and reading my story.

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