[honey2019]

Thankyou for your replies. He has admitted to occasional use but the tests are still positive every time. I am just sick of it. I try to be supportive but I think I’m just enabling him that way!

[honey2019]

I know I do. At present he is not allowed near me. I’m not sure whether to pursue the charges or drop them. He hasn’t apologised for his behaviour. His family are mad at me for reporting him and that alone seems enabling. He contacted me this evening and I asked him if he was going to apologise. He completely dismissed what happened and said ‘what are you on about’ as though he was confused. He shows zero remorse. That alone has driven me to make he decision to leave. At least if he was remorseful I could see that he sees the error of his ways but ultimately this relationship is abusive and I have been blind to it before getting help

[honey2019]

Such a hard situation for you. You are doing a great job being there for your son and grandson. Its so frustrating isn’t it? The addiction just takes precedence for them and it’s so hard to make them see. X

[honey2019]

I think enabling her by supporting your son and grandson is irrelevant. Ultimately the welfare of your grandson is paramount and trumps enabling her addiction. If you are heavily involved in your grandsons upbringing you can provide him with a safe place, where he is provided with the care and consistency that he isn’t getting from her. It is very sad as I’m sure that underneath it all she is very troubled but meanwhile that little boy is being brought up in a chaotic environment and that won’t help support his development. Do whatever you can to support your son and grandson. Even if that means she gets worse. Might sound harsh but like I say, child comes first here

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