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We are beginning to accept it now and have looked back at lots of photos from happier times thanks. I have just read your post and really feel for you, I felt the same helplessness and desperation that you must be feeling right now. There is one bit of positivity for you and that is your Dad is getting some help in the hospital and I really hope they get in the mental health services to help him while he is in there to work on the route cause and follow it up. Your Dad may have moments of clarity which is a good time to talk positively about recovery. When you see him talk about positive things that are happening in yours and your children’s lives as it may spark an inner desire to get better and be a part of it. Please share our experience with him and explain my partner believed he was a burden and we would be better of without him which isn’t true we would be better with him still here.

Our son is 19 and is absolutely amazing, he too worried about drinking being genetic but he has seen the true dark side of this addiction as we have lived with it for the last few years but I have told him that if he wants a drink with friends that a couple is okay from time to time and not to be secretive about it, he is very sensible. I am lucky as I can take it or leave it and haven’t actually had a drink since my partner was hospitalised a year ago. I really hope things improve for your Dad and while he is still alive there is hope.

Be kind to yourself, he will know that you have his best interests at heart x

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