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U have and are helping me so much I can’t thank u enough for your honesty! My relationship with my family is very open honest and they are supportive of me they run their own business from home and have still offered to do childcare for me while I work I come to far in my job to be forced to quit over childcare costs. Relationship with his parents is or was very good however their response to what’s gone on is to not get involved and have no contact now with either myself or partner as they see that way they can’t get hurt and upset and I see where they are coming from I suppose!
See I don’t know what to expect… this is my first experience of this kind of thing and I have never done drugs so I don’t know how ill u get if u get ill I don’t even know if he is ill (personally I think it’s more a case of it now being weekend an wanting to use)
He’s cancelled contact with our so I’m ill maybe Next week if ok..’ it was like and extra gut kick I was hoping that would be a chance to finally talk and now thats gone
He’s cancelled his contact with our son for tomorrow and said ‘can’t make tomorrow I’m ill maybe Next week if ok..’ it was like and extra gut kick I was hoping tomorrow would be a chance to finally talk and now that gone and not only that but our sons been let down.
He’s cancelled his contact with our son for tomorrow and said ‘can’t make tomorrow I’m ill maybe Next week if ok..’ it was like and extra gut kick I was hoping tomorrow would be a chance to finally talk and now that gone and not only that but our sons been let down. And as for Monday I as due to work I’ve managed to get it so I’m only working 3hrs. My mum has had to come sit with me this evening as I’m just a mess it’s 7 days today and will be 10 days Monday before our son sees his dad but I don’t think I’m day will happen either
He’s cancelled his contact with our son for tomorrow and said ‘can’t make tomorrow I’m ill maybe Monday if ok..’ it was like and extra gut kick I was hoping tomorrow would be a chance to finally talk and now that gone and not only that but our sons been let down. And as for Monday I as due to work I’ve managed to get it so I’m only working 3hrs. My mum has had to come sit with me this evening as I’m just a mess it’s 7 days today and will be 10 days Monday before our son sees his dad but I don’t think I’m day will happen either
He’s cancelled his contact with our son for tomo and said ‘can’t make tomo I’m ill maybe Monday if ok..’ it was like and extra gut kick I was hoping tomo would be a chance to finally talk and now that gone and not only that but our sons been let down. And as for Monday I as due to work I’ve managed to get it so I’m only working 3hrs. My mum has had to come sit with me this evening as I’m just a mess it’s 7 days today and will be 10 days Monday before our son sees his dad but I don’t think I’m day will happen either
He’s cancelled his contact with our son for tomo and said ‘can’t make tomo I’m ill maybe Monday if ok..’ it was like and extra gut kick I was hoping tomo would be a chance to finally talk and now that gone and not only that but our sons been let down. And as for Monday I as due to work I’ve managed to get it so I’m only working 3hrs. My mum has had to come sit with me this evening as I’m just a mess it’s 7 days today and will be 10 days Monday before our son sees his dad but I don’t think I’m day will happen eithe r
Well my partner has cancelled his contact with our son tomo he’s only 1. The excuse was ‘can’t do tomo I’m ill maybe I’ll do Monday if ok with u’ erm some of us have work Monday… of which I’ve had to create a childcare bubble for me to go. It’s like he doesn’t to keep what day it is but doesn’t takins like he’s going to work Monday!! I text him back and said come home so we can talk and I’m working Monday and I also said how do u k is u will be ill still tomo or even Sunday (obviously because he’s getting on it at the weekend) why do we love them so much is it because we know what they are like without being under the influence? I wish I didn’t care but I’m hangin on telling myself he’s just being consumed by cocaine at the mo
He works term time like me so both of us are due back to work on Monday. I’m going to contact my work today.
So I’m on day 7 now of him not home! Since I caught him out on the lie he’s been totally silent I think today will be day 3 of silence and that with me sending one text asking if he’s ok.. no reply nothing! My stomach is like it’s in a washing machine and I’m meant to go back to work Monday… I have no childcare as we worked shifts around each other I don’t know whether to contact work today or not
Hi Angus, how r thing with u?
I’m in day 7 now and he’s still not home!! Around day 3 I had some texts where I thought I’m getting somewhere then he told me a lie in text that I knew was a lie (he tried claiming he only did it once the Friday he left and the drug dealer he’s living with is now miraculously clean and he’s not seen one bit there and tried telling me he got it from somewhere else except… that somewhere else he named hadnt seen my partner for a year!!) when he realised I knew he’s gone back to being silent and that’s with me texting once in the last 3 days asking how is.. nothing! No reply at all! My stomach is like it’s going round and round in a washing machine
I think we need it blunt at times! My ‘partner’ has contacted today to ask to see his son so I’ve arranged to meet at a park an I’m not leaving my son with him. He then went on to tell me the dealer he’s living with is clean, and how he ‘hasn’t seen one bit of cocaine there’ I said so u will be clean if we did a test then his reply was ‘well I used last Friday but I got that off **** (didn’t want to write name)’ however I happen to know the partner of the man he claimed he got cocaine off on Friday and they said they hadn’t seen him. So I said well that’s funny because **** doesn’t recall seeing you since last September so I don’t think we need to talk anymore today because I know and u know u have just lied right to me and I know and u know u r living in a cocaine house’ I got back ‘yes fine it’s from here’ and he’s gone back to silence. I cannot believe the lie he tried filling me up with why is he making out the drug dealer he’s living with is clean?
Thank you for your comment, it’s does give me food for thought what your are saying.
3.5yrs I’ve been with my partner and we have a 1yr old. He told me he dabbled with it after his divorce and told me he was clean. I like u also found out that wasn’t quite the truth and he had used and he also promised to stop! This Friday just gone he decided to cause a row over yoghurt pack all his stuff and literally go and live at his dealers and I’ve not heard from him so far since not even to ask how his son is! I am broken I cry daily I can eat more than one meal and our son is looking for him calling dada round the house.. the reality is though my partner probably isn’t giving us a second thought right now. I know I am not helping but if ur partner is just at the start it may get worse for u. I got left for a bender when I was pregnant all because I wouldn’t let him go nighty fishing with his dealer, I trusted him to take our son to meet his mum for the first time while I had a sleep and I found out he took out son to meet his dealer I kicked him out then he told me that was his changing point and I believe he was clean from that point so just over a yr clean, and now this just gone again no contact. I don’t know if they all behave like this? I am so lost my inside physically hurt. Sorry not much help but just my experience of how it can worsen. I love my partner so very much and want him home but the reality is will this be life?? And that’s if he even comes home this time