[jayh102]

I agree the trust is a big part for the relationship to work, its not nice for us to constantly be worrying or paranoid sometimes it is just best to walk away so we don’t become a mess.

I hope things improve for you. X

[jayh102]

It sounds so horrible, its something that others should be supporting you both with, im sorry rhat you feel so alone in this.

Everyone sees drinking alcohol as such a normal thing when in reality its a drug that should be classed like the rest of them. Alcohol is a big trigger and it causes so many problems!

I wish I could give you some more advise. I must say that when I was in this situation although they eventually saw the truth it was very much a fight like what you’ve been dealing with. Unfortunately some people never see the problem.

[jayh102]

Its definitely not on you, all the nasty things he says is to make you back down which allows him to do as he wishes. Honesty with his family is best I’ve been in your situation too and once I had told his parents the truth they managed to fit the puzzle pieces together and see it for themselves, unfortunately sounds like shes lashing out as she doesn’t want to believe it.

Im so sorry for what you are going through. Its hard to know when enough is enough. You need to look after yourself first.

I am out of this relationship now but I was in such a bad place then I was relieved to be away from it all. Although I find myself in a very simular situation now.

I understand exactly how you are feeling and I hope things improve for you. X

[jayh102]

I have said many times to him is it what he wants otherwise we are wasting our time and he always says he wants to stop.

I think maybe we need to decide our own limitations as to whens best to leave. Although writing this I already know I have backed out from going through with it, its so hard.

[jayh102]

Thankyou both for your replies im so sorry you are going through this too, the pain is unreal and knowing what to do for the best is impossible!

I will definitely read through some more posts and find the videos etc to pass onto him to help.

I cant stand these moments we are not talking, I have nothing nice to say but we have all the children here with a weekend fully planned for them. Holding it all together as I’m way too good at now lol !

Always here if youd like to reach out.

It has helped just to get it all out, its not something I would talk to family about and my friends know but I won’t open up everytime. It has caused rifts between my friends and him because they don’t want me in this situation. Feels very lonely.

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