[jen]

Thanks hox for reply I have tried telling her that I need her to be there for me but doesn’t make a difference in her eyes she is absolutely fine my mother is very self centred and always has been , I’ve tried to distance myself from her but only managed a couple of days without caving and talking to her , think not speaking to her upsets me more than her I feel like I am responsible for her in some ways!! It’s a very strange relationship I’m the youngest of four sisters but it’s always been me and her before she met her husband we’ve been through a lot together and I’m the only one that has been there through all of it . I’m always worried if I do just leave her to it she might do something stupid and I don’t think I could cope with that , I’m happy to hear your sister is doing so well without the alcohol and hope it carries on for all of your sakes .

[jen]

Thanks for the advice will have a look at those suggestions, her husband struggles a lot with the situation and turns to me a lot of the time to vent and talk to which is hard also sometimes it would be easier if he could take the reigns but I no how hard it is to try get through to her as she can become quite nasty when’s she’s had a drink so I feel like I have to be there for both of them most of the times . I’m just hoping she will realise she can’t carry on like this and let us get her some help but she even refuses to speak to doctor, would be nice to have her there for me as a mother rather than me looking after her for once , I’ve been doing this for years but for some reason this time I’m struggling with the pressure

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