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Awww hope your OK it’s definitely made me think differently about myself listening to it xx
I’m listening to this on you tube thought it might help xx
Yeah it’s really hard I think like that too I think I was creating a Co dependancy towards him like I could fix him. Sometimes it takes a while to learn from this and sit back and start by loving youself and saying to yourself you deserve better! We all do! I hope he stays away and you manage to get on with your life!! I too might have to get a restraining order! Thank you for your lovely reply it means alot xx
Hey girls I’m in the same boat. I had to leave my partner of 4 years last week after finding out he blew 600 pounds going on a 5 day coke and diazepam bender with his work colleague. He was doing so well 18 months off it. I tryed so hard for years to keep him on the straight and narrow. He ignored me for days wouldn’t speak to me over the phone just text now and again. Iv gone round in circles for years and realised he was never going to change. He still thinks he hasn’t got a problem. Won’t go and get the help needed. He was also addicted to codeine while he was off coke for those 18 months so I guess that just replaced the coke. I am struggling with my own mental health trying to create a new routine for myself. I lost my kids when I fell ill.. looking after him thinking that was what was needed. I am now in court next month fighting to get my kids overnight. I do see them now just a few times a week. I also got diagnosed 3 years ago with bipolar disorder so iv had my own challenges. I always looked after him, cooked and did his washing when I was well. He sucked the life out of me and I was constantly drained it was always about him. They only care about themselves and use you iv come to realise and I’m better off without him. I too lost myself and put on loads of weight to the point I’m unrecognisable. I had to block him from emails shut down the old ones as he kept creating new email accounts. I changed my number. My family and friends had to block him from social media he wouldn’t leave me alone. He was banging on my sisters door the night I left him. He would be nasty in his emails calling me fat and ugly and no one will want you. And thank god you aborted our kid. Then he would send feel sorry for me emails begging for me back. It was hard the first week I must admit I wanted to get back with him as I missed him. Let me just say.. It all starts with self worth.. self love.. Self care.. Self confidence.. Self compassion.. Self respect.. save yourself before you save anyone else. There’s a song by Ed Sherian called save yourself my friend told me to listen to it the other night and it so rings true! Its the best thing you can do for yourself and your children.. shift your focus on them!! not on him! They will never change and will take you down with them. You will find someone else so worthy of you and your kids remember that you are stronger than you know!!! ???? xxx