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I am so sorry to hear about your sister. It is good she has you for support. Wishing you every strength with this, and keeping your distance from your partner. Stay strong x

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Is that your son ? Sounds like he lives with you. In some ways that is good, you can keep tabs on them. Hope he turns up soon.x

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He didn’t seem too bad, managed to get him out for a walk. Its a job to know really, he thought he had a sure set for a job, but don’t know if he’s heard or not.

Hope your weekend is going ok.x

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Hi, yes you are so right ! They are selfish, and blind to our needs, but I guess that’s the nature of addiction. That’s why we have to stay strong and look after ourselves, and our own health! X

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Hi, yes thats very true! Glad you have hobbies etc to do, you are forging your own life, you’ve just got to do that.

I made an impromptu visit to my son, and the tell tale powder was there on the , side, so I know he is still using, I just wanted to see for myself.

The WDP didn’t contact him on the time and day they said they would. He was going to contact them back, but as usual he isn’t getting in touch.

I am still hoping I can organise help via Icarus, this might be more helpful.

Take care, and have a good weekend. X

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I don’t think you could be any more supportive than you are being. Like I said though, everyone has their limits.

Its important you find time for yourself though, and do your own thing. So difficult I guess sometimes.x

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It sounds like you have been through so much, and not been appreciated. Please don’t go back to this person, stay strong and make a new life for yourself however hard that might be. Don’t look back.

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Coke does sound like an absolute nightmare. There have been a few posts on the forum with people talking about it, I don’t know if you have seen them.

He is lucky to have you, but everyone has their limits.

Are you able to talk about it with him ?

I hope you have a nice Easter too.x

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Hi. I haven’t had my first session yet, not until next Thursday. I wanted to come down and see my son for Easter, as he doesn’t want to come home, but he wants us to come another time with each other !

The latest thing is, he wanted my husband to photocopy pages in his passport, and send it to him, so he could set up another gambling account ! He said he only wanted to bet small amounts, and get special offers ! A worrying development !

Husband refused.

It is a shame that your husband was tempted to use with his friends, I guess that is peer pressure. Its good you are being positive about it. Has he got any other friends he could hang out with ?

Has he tried NA ? My son won’t unfortunately.

You’ve just got to concentrate on yourself and your wellbeing x

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I’m ok thanks. Not really any news, may be receiving help from Icarus, they have contacted me, about counselling help, and self help for son. Hopefully, your husband is serious this time about stopping.

It has to come from them, I have been told a few times that my son might need to hit rock bottom before he is willing to stop ! Hope you are ok.x

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I was told a couple of weeks ago that the WDP at the moment don’t have a big waiting time. You can refer yourself, ir get the GP to refer him. I don’t know about the 12 steps.NA might know about how to access that. I think NA are more for the addict, but there’s families Anonymous, or FAMAn you can contact for advice x

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Hi. He has asked for a referral back to the WDP, they were helping him before, so am hoping he will be more motivated this time. It does sound like your partner really wants to stop. Would he contact NA, or maybe a local drug project near to where you live, it’s difficult to do these things without help.x

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Hi. Could he get referred to a drug project at all ? My son got in touch today, I was saying about the 12th step plan which the Narcotics Anonymous do. He said it is difficult to access it, but has contacted the WDP, so I am hoping that he will actually access the help this time ! Take care.x

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I agree. GP’s could definitely more re mental health and taking drugs, like you say, poor mental health seems to be at the root of people taking drugs. Does your partner get any help regarding the cocaine? Has he tried getting off it ? Sounds like a nightmare for you, can you get help yourself ? I did try families anonymous for a while, didn’t really suit me, seems to help some people. Take care of yourself. X

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You too ! We have to keep fit ! X

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