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Hi, yes it’s very hard especially when it is something out of our control. You are right, it isn’t our fault, but sometimes you do wonder, and maybe feel it is. Yes, it has been a help getting feedback on here. People have been really supportive.

People are going through some difficult times !

Addiction is a terrible thing. Like you say, you can only be there in the background. X

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Hi, thankyou for your reply. However, he isn’t receiving any help at the minute. He initially was receiving help from a drugs project, but they have a 3 strikes and you are out policy, he missed 3 appointments unfortunately.

If I had known about the last one, I would have made sure he attended, but that isn’t how they operate. It is all down to the individual, and they dont budge from that. I guess they are right. We have lent him some money, probably for the first and last time ! I am sorry to hear about your friend, it is great she has your support.

I am hoping to get him referred to the local community mental health, the GP said if he was taking drugs, he wouldn’t be able to be included.x

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My husband spoke to him yesterday, and obviously he is quite down about not having a job. It is a very difficult time at the moment for people who are out of work.

Yes, hopefully when lockdown ends, and the weather picks up, he will do more outside. He does watch an awful lot of tv at the minute ! X

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Hi there. Nice of you to get in touch. I am pleased your son managed to access some help. Like you say my son needs to want the help, and so far has not cooperated with this, although he has been offered it in the past.

It is hard work though, and great your son is persevering with it.

The Theresa thread sounds like a good idea, I will try and access it. Thankyou for your kind thoughts. I do have a voluntary job which takes my mind of things.x

[jetster9]

Thankyou for your reply. I will definitely get in touch with you soon, am running out of options !

[jetster9]

Hi. He used to have hobbies, he played football for a while, then hurt his back, so finds it hard to play now. The lockdown has made things hard, as he likes to play golf, and would even go on his own to practice.

Where he lives, he’s a bit isolated, and not near any friends. Sadly, I am not sure how many friends he has left now.

He is finding it hard to get a job, which is getting him down. He spends a lot if time watching tv. ! Hopefully, when the lockdown ends, he will bd able to get out and about a bit, and the same for your husband too. The lockdown has been a nightmare for people’s mental health.

We suggested a voluntary job for him, but he wasn’t keen on that idea. ! X

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Yes, I agree with you, there isn’t much out there at all to treat this disease. Usually there is a mental health issue underneath, but GP ‘s wont get involved where drugs are involved ! Places like the WDP rely on people to be pro active, where the nature of the beast is people on drugs aren’t motivated. It’s just a shame they are unable to do a community service, visit people in their homes. It isn’t very personal. I am sorry for your family, as it does affect the whole family.x

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Hi, still not sure how I access Betty’s post, I’ll keep trying. Like I say I’m not very computer savvy. Yes, addiction is complicated for sure, they say it is an illness, but it seems difficult to cure !

[jetster9]

Hi, I’m not too savvy on this site must admit ! It is good of you to reply, it doesn’t always happen !

[jetster9]

Hi yes thanks I’ll have a look at these. Dont know how to find that post though, Betty1971 ! X

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Hi, thanks I’ll check those out x

[jetster9]

Hi, thankyou ! Here’s hoping ! X

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Hi, yes has been tough lockdown as for everyone. Sadly he won’t engage with these online groups which is a shame ! I felt that the wdp promised a lot, but in the end he wouldn’t engage with them. He was doing reasonably well before first lockdown, high earner. Video calls are out too , just have to hope for the best, thankyou.

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Hi, yes. We would like him to be nearer, its difficult as he bought a house just over a year ago. I am keeping tabs on the water payment. I was going up a lot to see him at one stage, but it got too much. Thankyou for your reply.x

[jetster9]

Hi. Thankyou for your reply. Yes, he is receiving financial support, at least until July. We have learnt him some money, but will not be keen to lend any more, although he has a big bill to pay from Thames Water, they have given him until April to pay, otherwise threatening legal action !

It’s so frustrating as he lives 2 hours away from us, there also seems so little help available for someone in his position.x

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