I’m a dad and in the same situation. my son, 17 has been smoking weed (and taking other stuff, although I’m not sure what) and getting drunk for 2 years now. He’s getting worse and regularly passes out in town on a bench somewhere or in the park and we have to drive around looking for him or get the police involved. Won’t talk about it…promises to stop but then he’s hammered again and we don’t know where he is. And yeah, we have the begging for money to go to the ‘cinema’ or out for a meal with his ‘friends’ – it really is hard to resist sometimes because you so want that to be true. At his worst, he swears at us constantly and I’m worried that he’ll turn violent. His behaviour really is tearing the family apart. I feel all of your pain…x