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Thanks Paula and Margot. I will look out for the charity that offers counselling on here, as I feel I need support from professionals or at least from people that have some experience of what I’m going through. I am lucky that I have a couple of friends that I can confide in and that are willing to listen. You’re right, I feel ashamed too that my son is an addict.

I found some NA online groups for my son to join just a few days ago. My son registered but his phone wouldn’t work for the group and he gave up. He then went out and came home that night without using. I had renewed hope.

However last night he stayed out, he’s obviously been using and probably still is. I know the signs. I’ve no doubt that I won’t see him now for the rest of the weekend and just worry if he’s alive or dead, hospitalised or incarcerated.

He has no money, so how he is affording the cocaine I have no idea. He says he gives lifts to people for money.

Thanks again, Paula and Margot, for responding to my message. (I didn’t realise that the emails from Adfam were going to my junk folder.) Both your messages have given me hope. I won’t give up trying to get him to talk to NA and I won’t give up on him.

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Hi everyone. I know this thread is probably very old now… but I need some help please.

I’m a single mum with no real family support. My son has been using cocaine on and off for about 4-5 years now. He’s 22 years old.

Recently it’s got really bad. He’s doing it nearly every night. He’s been owing dealers too.

He’s had a job for about 6 months now, but recently the work just isn’t there. He’d only do cocaine at ythe weekend if he had work in the week.

I think I’ve tried everything. I got him into an outpatient drug centre. Where they would only give patients a blood test once a week, which I can do at home. And he saw a counsellor once a month. He stopped going.

I’ve got him a psychologist, psychiatrist and a talk therapist. None of those seemed to help.

I’ve tried the hard line with him, the soft approach, I’ve even tried to ignore it.

I’ve tried to encourage him to do some sort of sport. He went boxing for a while.

He’s just started going out with a girl that he’s known for a while. She is a non drug user. My son has said if I let her come round at weekends then he’ll stop using. If not then he’ll keep using.

I don’t know what to do. I have refused this idea so far as I don’t think he’ll stop using when he’s not with her. They can’t be together 24/7. Also I don’t want my home to be used as a knocking shop, if you’ll excuse the expression. I don’t want to be held to ransom.

Our home is only 44m2 so it’s not as though they or I can escape anywhere. I don’t go out much at all.

I just don’t know what to do about anything anymore. I’m worried and stressed constantly and I have to work.

I would be very grateful for any advice.

Thank you

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Hi everyone. I know this thread is probably very old now… but I need some help please.

I’m a single mum with no real family support. My son has been using cocaine on and off for about 4-5 years now. He’s 22 years old.

Recently it’s got really bad. He’s doing it nearly every night. He’s been owing dealers too.

He’s had a job for about 6 months now, but recently the work just isn’t there. He’d only do cocaine at the weekend if he had work in the week.

I think I’ve tried everything. I got him into an outpatient drug centre. Where they would only give patients a blood test once a week, which I can do at home. And he saw a counsellor once a month. He stopped going.

I’ve got him a psychologist, psychiatrist and a talk therapist. None of those seemed to help.

I’ve tried the hard line with him, the soft approach, I’ve even tried to ignore it.

I’ve tried to encourage him to do some sort of sport. He went boxing for a while.

He’s just started going out with a girl that he’s known for a while. She is a non drug user. My son has said if I let her come round at weekends then he’ll stop using. If not then he’ll keep using.

I don’t know what to do. I have refused this idea so far as I don’t think he’ll stop using when he’s not with her. They can’t be together 24/7. Also I don’t want my home to be used as a knocking shop, if you’ll excuse the expression. I don’t want to be held to ransom.

My home is only 44m2 so it’s not as though they or I can escape anywhere. I don’t go out much at all.

I just don’t know what to do about anything anymore. I’m worried and stressed constantly and I have to work.

I would be very grateful for any advice.

Thank you

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