[kasiesta223]

So sorry for your loss….

It is sad.

Just hang there.

Lots of hugs !

[kasiesta223]

I’m so sorry…. It shouldn’t be like this…. And you need to seek help ! And of course tell your parents ! I know it may be hard. I was at the beginning also scared but it’s the best thing I did. Now the support me so much even though they are in different country.

Especially if you have kid. He should be the one that should give you money now so you can have something to live from.

And remember that he has the problem and he needs to be ashamed of it. He is the problem. Your parents will understand that.

It’s important that you will move on because if he is saying he will not stop and seems like he wants you to accept it then your life will never be good again.

Please stay strong…. I think most important now is that he is gone. Just take small steps. First talk with someone that can support you. Like your parents. Then think what to do next to have money for living. Also I guess it’s good to fix some separation paper or something so he will need to pay for your kid. This is just not fair what he did. And you shouldn’t go through it alone !

[kasiesta223]

How is it with you then ? And what you planning to do ?

If you want you can tell me more about your situation 🙂

[kasiesta223]

Hi !

When I’m reading this it’s like I read my mind. I have husband that takes meth . He is also having adhd meds with amphetamine.

He is also saying that sometimes he needs to disappear for the nights as I am making problems and I’m just looking at him and controlling him all the time. That everything is in my head.

I’m getting really confused a lot of times as I don’t know anymore if I should do something differently or what…

Now I’m at the point where I will go tomorrow and check apartments for myself. I don’t know what will came out of it. Like your guy mine can also be the sweetest person and loving… but they both love something else over us and that’s not good.

And they don’t even understand that they actually choose something else. Last time when I said it to my husband he smashed the window in our car and his phone.

I wasn’t there this time but many things happened anyways whenever I tried to say that I’m leaving or whatever….

Give me an update how is it going with you and if you are ok.

Hugs from me ! 🙂

[kasiesta223]

Hi,

Thanks for sharing the story ! I am also in different country and married a guy who was clean for 6 years but he is taking again.

I’m in Norway and i moved here for him. I was thinking many times to leave because I also couldn’t find job here. But I love him so I never did it.

But now I finally found a job and im planning to move.

And I understand how hard it must be…. I also have cat here but I can’t take him yet. I can take him only in September which makes me more sad. And I don’t know if I should leave now or later or what….

Probably you feel disappointed that you went to other country to be with the person you love and then this happens. He chooses something else over you.

That’s at least how I feel.

But if you have opportunity to leave just do it. It’s great that you have your family to support you. I don’t know what I would do without my friends and fam.

I know already know that I’m codependent. And sometimes out of comfort zone I’m kind of in now I don’t want to leave him. And of course it’s scares me a lot to be alone. But I guess that’s better than this all.

Let me know how it’s going with you and what’s the update ! 🙂

Hugs from Norway !

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