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He lost last job his partner and his baby daughter even she wasn’t enough to pull him round. He says he is better than he was. Still doesn’t help me cos he still wants money
I just don’t want to see him lose everything and he will without my help. I am flogging a dead horse though he pays no bills whatsoever apart from sky which of course he wants
Thank you yes I have shared my story ten years ago and came back to say nothing has changed. My fault I suppose for trying to help him. I just feel helpless like there must be something I am missing or not doing but maybe it is what it is and like so many others I have to just protect myself from my sons addiction and hope that something will happen to make him want to change. I am sorry if I sounded abrupt it wasn’t meant like that. I just am at my wits end with him
Thank you. That all makes sense. I suppose the same as all other mums dads families I just feel so helpless I love my son but sometimes I hate him. I dread seeing his name come up on my phone because I know he wants something. This time has been bad because he was actually making threats that’s how things have got. I have made it clear there is no more money and I have stuck with it.
I had his bank card to try to stop him taking all the money out that didn’t work and he has demanded that back. I am talking to someone from Drugfam and Famanon and now on here. I struggle to accept there is nothing I can do but as you say there are things I can do to help me and that’s what I will aim for x
He would be on the streets if he had continued as he is that’s for certain. I should have stopped trying to help a long while ago maybe he would have been ok now
Sorry no I see what you mean I wasn’t sure if I was even putting posts on properly. I just feel like screaming at the minute. I know the only thing to do is nothing and wait till he wants. Really wants things different trouble is he may have lost everything by then. No not sure how to access the meetings and my son has been quite abusive recently demanding money that I am not in contact with him at the minute.
Thank you I just feel so helpless. He is bleeding me dry I have to leave him to it or he will take me down with him. He is abusive when he doesn’t get what he wants from me
And I don’t think he does not really
Sometimes he wants to stop but generally he has no reason to I don’t know how often he uses but as soon as he gets paid that’s where the bulk of his money goes
Hi thank you for replying I feel so sad about the situation. He has been using coke for years I have I inadvertently enabled him helping him with debts trying to sort his money out etc. It’s not getting any better. I told him when he got paid this month put money away to get to work he said he would then two days ago he says to me well how am I getting to work. I told him if he hadn’t kept money back I would not be helping him. He is already on a warning at work. After a load of abuse I turned my phone off and am determined to leave him to it. I haven’t heard from him I don’t know if he is at work he doesn’t live with me. I feel sick to the stomach but I cannot give him more money he has bled me dry
Maybe I am doing something wrong I am asking people for advice and being ignored my life is in tatters I don’t know where to turn where do I go for advice on my coke addicted son
I would be interested in this as well
So what’s the answer to a mum who dispairs. As an addict how can I help my son. I have stopped finding him but with that comes the fear he will lose his job and home. He has bled me dry and really doesn’t care