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A millionaire haha what a t**t. Oh I can’t stand people who are boastful that just puts me right off a person. What an idiot. If she fell for that then she needs to have a word with herself! That’s far from impressive, and if I knew he had kids he didn’t see that would tell me all I need to know! Waste of space.
I’ve heard from mine yesterday and I was sharp and basically got bored with his voice in the first few seconds. It’s as tho I’ve switched my emotions off! I have gone off him. Think they call it the “doorslam” I’m an INFJ personality and once we gone we gone ????
Sorry to hear you haven’t been well. In this heat also ????????.
It all does seem a bit strange, but People are strange. Meeting kids in just a month etc just makes me think she’s a bit irresponsible, but I agree with your friends I’d feel sorry for her also, because you don’t know if she’s being manipulated. She probably is.
I think he is the car crash to be fair. Telling you he loves you then one month later he is out there with a ready made family ????. Madness.
I don’t wanna talk to mine. I’ve had it enough of all the lies. I absolutely can’t stand lies now so much it’s made me angry
I think swapping ideas and helping one another out goes along way in recovery. Plus, you’ve always been supportive Dan and that’s what we do in life.
We all just walking besides one another ????
I think you’re right Dan, they seem to go hand in hand. It’s called euphoric recall, it’s where the brain recalls information triggering a response. At least until you rewire and give yourself some time free of it all.
You can do it
Yep it’s always the “associating” factors. In a way it’s sort a like the sun represents the “up” and the crap weather the “down”.
It’s just hard but you can ride out those things you know that.
Music releases the natural chemicals so the brain thinks it’s “party time” which then triggers the using ????????????
Hey Dan, you know I sometimes think the weather plays apart in our decisions because I dunno about you my moods change with the weather which affects my resolve.
Anyways keep talking and remember the self care stuff.
I think life is just one fat trigger anyway at the moment ????????
Hey Daydream, how’s the tooth now? Sounds painful ????.
Ah what does official even mean? Come on, we know this isn’t going to last! Has he magically changed and his addiction just disappeared? No course it ain’t. Let them have their honeymoon period because that’s what this is. And as for her swanning off with her kids I mean wtf how long have they known one another and kids are involved already ????. Well that’s gonna go tits up sooner rather than later because that just adds more pressure.
Just breathe….
Sorry you’re feeling this way. I’ve just got home from night out catch up tomorrow. Keep strong love. I’m here for you. You will get thru this
We’re all addicts luv in one sense or another!
I can understand your frustrations. I must be f**Ked up then because I have spent half if not nearly all my life understanding addiction and I have to say it’s been the most rewarding journey of my life.
You good Danman?
Ah I don’t think it’s easy for someone to understand the nature of addiction if never experienced it so it’s not funny really! It’s heartbreaking.
It’s unlikely he “bumped” into a dealer, that’s the lies right there. It’s so easy to want to believe what’s being said because you don’t want your son using at all, I understand that. However, keep an open mind, I’m sure you had some sort of incling? If not you’re gonna wanna think like an addict, and you’re going to have to understand the behaviours of one.
Hope you’re alright’Cath
It takes time. And I suppose that if he has had some sort of clean time it shows some motivation. Each time should get longer and longer until he has enough of it. But he’ll need help from others and himself. It’s a rollercoaster for sure
From a non using perspective I can understand how hard it is to understand. Maybe he wasn’t clean? Or atleast fully! Cravings can come and go anytime, especially if under some sort of pressure/stress. Triggers are everywhere! A mood swing can be a trigger, even LIFE can be a trigger!
It’s how one manages their own responses to life unfortunately, and so if someone has unhealthy coping strategies when the chips are down then I’m afraid they fall back to that (as a crutch). To kick an addiction takes enormous strength and willpower, along with a s**t load of “tools” in the tool box.
It’s a journey and one journey that’s walked alone, well in terms of wanting help etc
Lapse = A one off
Relapse = Back to full addiction, patterns and behaviours
Hook up?
No addict will do anything because of others. They will do it because they are addicted and because they choose/want to use.
You can’t watch him forever no definitely not and even if you did he will only get better at hiding it or manipulating you or worse take him deeper init.
Hope you have people supporting you Cath
Ah good for you and I always say that even if you go to atleast one meeting a week or when you NEED (because you would know). And yeh life is about balance you’re right. It’s good you kept your family.
Chocolate haha do you need a care plan for that ????
Do you attend any meetings or just sustain recovery here?