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Thanks Kel1

Yes GP asked me and I said Yes. I think it’s a good thing for hubby to have to answer to them and takes limelight to him.

We’ve had a better day and things a bit calmer, talked a lot and he’s admitted a few things, this puts my mind at rest slightly more.

As Daz has said its going to be big ups and downs. I’ll take those good days! Need more of them x

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Hi All,

Thanks for this information and great you all are saying the same so I can be prepared.

Doctor suggested SS and I agreed.

I won’t kick him out until I’m told too. If they say that I will follow those rules, I’m not stupid.

But I’ve done drug test, he was clean. He isn’t being left with them from now. He has no money and hasn’t been drinking.

I have to give him space and a decent chance.

I’ve called the schools and notified them.

He has already self referred to the drug services and has his first appointment on Friday night. He has a private counsellor on a Saturday lunchtime, who will now be involved.

If this blows up in my face I’ll know I did everything I could. I hope it doesn’t. I really hope he does get clean firs time.

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Hi Daz,

Thanks for this! Really really helpful.

He has signed up for drug help and has his first session next week Friday evening.

I’ve already contacted our school – I have a good relationship with them as my youngest two are ASD. They were supportive but shocked.

I asked my GP about him leaving and he said certainly not.

The drug test tip is helpful, I will do another one tomorrow morning. I take his car keys (and mine) his phone and wallet to bed with me every night.

He has no money in his account and all future money from his employer is being paid to me.

I won’t be fooled and with your help I can keep that up. And ahead of the game…. like testing.

Plan tonight to all go to bed by 8.30pm, completely exhausted and need the sleep.

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Ash god I am shattered. I really am. I’m shifting myself about social services. I really am.

I won’t be returning to work any day soon, because my business isn’t deemed ‘safe’ so not good. But we are managing moneywise and I think I can’t work with all this anyway.

I felt pretty good Thursday Day. Just then all blew up when that test was done and we saw two family members. He did text them and say he was sorry/wrong in what he said.

Today has been tense but mainly because I’m being unemotional infront of him.

When he’s in the home office I’m crying my eyes out.

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Daz thank you!

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Can you see new thread? Thought it may be easier to follow if fresh.

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I started a fresh thread. ‘He did a test’

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I’m starting to think they all are that we discuss. How could I not have a clue for so long? I was manipulated. I know that, frightens me that he would try that again.

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That’s really weird and I can understand why you are so unhappy.

To admit it and then said you are wrong and imagining it? That’s seriously odd!

You are probably better off not knowing where he is. Better for you all!

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DOT that’s amazing news!!!!! Well done you!!!

It’s all at your reach now, go grab it, enjoy it and let yourself smile

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Thanks for replying.

You have done everything you can, you have offered him a home. He should take it!

But maybe he just can’t for the reasons you said. I wonder what goes through their minds. It must be something quite deep to turn to this. I wonder if they don’t feel good enough.

The funny thing is they are… they mean more to us than they have any clue.

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Gosh 10 weeks! Ok that’s a good thing to know.

We are seeing GP tomorrow about bloods, so let’s hope all clear.

Thank you x

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Thanks so much for this! I appreciate it a lot.

The small goals is a good one. I think I will set goals for me too (goals with him in mind)

Your goals are brilliant and keep going. I think you stand a good chance of doing it.

He is doing anything I ask, maybe that’s why I am suspicious. He said he doesn’t want to leave the house either without me. We are going out tonight for a bit, so hopefully that will do him good.

He is up and down with the tiredness, but it’s getting better. He is eating for England and enjoying it. So that’s good.

It’s small steps

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Ok thanks that’s a good tip. When he talks and he says something I do think it’s true I say I believe you, I can see him react to that.

Last few days he has said the odd stupid comment and we have had small spats. But that makes sense with what you say.

Can I ask? How would he feel from that amount of coke….

He can’t have had more since Friday I assume!

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I think because of that crazy amount of coke – it’s the only reason he slipped up

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