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It’s called denile!!!!
I actually thought we were doing ok this wk in regards to be accepting him and just listening.
His episode last wk now has social services calling telling me I have to inform my ex!
We talked deeply last night as he was drinking and opening up. Had an understanding eve then this morning he said he needs to decide what he’s doing in regards to staying or moving out.
Because I have got upset and said why am I bothering going through all of this if u still are thinking like that he’s angry and telling me I’m abusive getting in his head.
He’s told my kids he’s cooking a roast and now told me do it myself!
Even made a point if he pays rent yet I still ask him to grab stuff from the shop!
This roast has cost another £18 today on top of my £150 food shop as we went and grabbed all he wanted and I felt I had to pay.
He’s made a point I can buy trainers
Wtf
He spends on alcohol daily and take always and I’m meant to feel bad
The abuse is on me and how he can say I abuse him hurts so bad
I feel ur pain. Living at ur mums must be so difficult!
Is he aware he has a problem?
My partner is very aware and that’s why he hates it pointed out!
I’ve actually taken an extra half anti depressive this wk and it’s helped me let things go that there are no arguements and he’s being more communitive but never know how long that lasts????♀️
He goes somewhere weekly and now the police has wrote a referral to his docs
He doesn’t care atm that’s how he gets
He’s scared what’s wrong with him
I have no idea if bi poler also or if it’s all drink related ????♀️
He’s in self pity mode as everyone has said he bought on the injury himself but he sees himslwf as victim
He came back from work very loss and concust but was talking to me lovely and about supporting me.
He then went to chop some weeds down and had a drink and it all changed.
After he sat in the garden alone. I had no kids so thought great what a waste of an eve but I’ve listened to him needing space so I nicely said would u like to have the eve to urself or do u want to do something
He said I feel sorry for u that u always have to ask questions????♀️
When he’s in control of his drinking he is amazing amd so thoughtful and loving
He came back from work very loss and concust but was talking to me lovely and about supporting me.
He then went to chop some weeds down and had a drink and it all changed.
After he sat in the garden alone. I had no kids so thought great what a waste of an eve but I’ve listened to him needing space so I nicely said would u like to have the eve to urself or do u want to do something
He said I feel sorry for u that u always have to ask questions????♀️
He came back from work very loss and concust but was talking to me lovely and about supporting me.
He then went to chop some weeds down and had a drink and it all changed.
After he sat in the garden alone. I had no kids so thought great what a waste of an eve but I’ve listened to him needing space so I nicely said would u like to have the eve to urself or do u want to do something
He said I feel sorry for u that u always have to ask questions????♀️
He came back from work very loss and concust but was talking to me lovely and about supporting me.
He then went to chop some weeds down and had a drink and it all changed.
After he sat in the garden alone. I had no kids so thought great what a waste of an eve but I’ve listened to him needing space so I nicely said would u like to have the eve to urself or do u want to do something
He said I feel sorry for u that u always have to ask questions????♀️
He came back from work very loss and concust but was talking to me lovely and about supporting me.
He then went to chop some weeds down and had a drink and it all changed.
After he sat in the garden alone. I had no kids so thought great what a waste of an eve but I’ve listened to him needing space so I nicely said would u like to have the eve to urself or do u want to do something
He said I feel sorry for u that u always have to ask questions????♀️
Hi sorry not been good.
Having kids together gives u way more reason to hope!
He actually spoke to me fri but turned pretty quick as he’s drinking.
He punched my mirror and called the police on himself but ran before they came . Ended in them mid treating him and 12 head stitches!
Sunday told me he wants to move out and be alone to learn who he is( heard this before) then Monday went for a drive and had a good day. All over me.
He’s now carried on as normal so last night he was drinking and I stupidly said it’s unfair I’m
Told he never loved me or wanted to move in and now he’s being all normal.
The response was t good!
Why can’t I just breathe.
I said i don’t want to invest my time and heart if he is actually making plans to go.
He went really weird, hands over ears talking to himself.
I went to bed. He’s stayed up and drank( with concussion) and has just gone to bed.
All I want to know is did he say all those things to be nasty and does he actually want me and love me. It’s a head mess
I ask myself this all the time.
He’s only been here a month but before that he had got to a steady stage. Was a lot better and deseperate to move forward so all felt perfect. This tells me the addictions are the issue but there’s always that niggle in my head maybe he really does mean all he says?!
When he’s sober and realises he is lovely, apologetic and admits he’s a nasty bastard with his mouth but each time it makes my self esteem drop and he doesn’t get that. He says all the time he doesn’t deserve me and he will be alone and ok if I look for better but that is awful also!
Last night we actually laid in bed watching a movie. At 10.30 he said I’ve got to go get a bottle of wine. When he’s bad he gets anxiety about getting to sleep so uses alcohol so we are back to that. There is something deeper with him for sure!
He tried to hug me but I went stiff and said all u said last night is hard to process. Instantly he was moody. It’s like he blames the drink but needs to also realise I’m owed an explanation despite that.
I asked for the light to be turned off. He just said no, I want it on so I went to sleep. It’s my wkend without kids so needs addressing. Like u said if he really doesn’t want to be here, pack ur bags this wkend then????♀️