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Hello. I am in a near identical situation. Been
With my fella 11yrs, discovered coke addiction last year and he has also ran up payday loan debts, maxed credit cards secretly ect. He relapsed earlier this year which I didnt discover until after I unexpectedly fell prrgnant with our 2nd child in April. I took hos bank card away n monitored every penny he spent but he strapped it and then comfesssd he needed 300 quid to pay his dealer. At this point I kicked him out. He came round a few days later and got aggressive m stole my bank card n all the cash I had. I had to call police who notified social services. They have said they would want to asess him before I could let him come back (which I wont until he starts a drug addiction treatment programme) he is sayin he will but keeps puttin it off. So im 4mth preg with a 5yr old n a boyf who isnt facing up to the seriousness of the situation. I cant offer you advice but would gladly be someone you can talk to if ya need it because I understand your positionLucy. Bless u hun your comment is so sad. I wirry every day my other half will overdose or even possibly top himself which hes threatened to do a couple of timrs because he feeks so worthless and such a failure for wgat hes diun to himswlf and us. Thinkin of u x
Hello. I just want to say I feel your pain. Ive been with my hubby 11yrs. Hes used cannabis all that time but he doesnt drink or go out partying so I didn’t mind tbh. We have a 5yr old n im 4mth pregnant. Last year he started working nights. I discovered he had been sniffin cocaine to stat awake. He didn’t tell me until heghad spent nearly 3000grand n tried to over dose on pills. This was a cry for help. He went to see a councillor n eventually moved back home (I asked him to leave because his mood swings were so wild) anyway 3 days after I discover im pregnant and 2daysbefore a hholiday in April he confessed he had spent all our money on coke. We went away with what I had saved and he promised to change. Then on payday 900 quid worth of payday loans came out the bank I was furious and pregnant and scared. We git him on a debt management plan and I hid his bank card and he cannot apply for payday loans anymore because he entered the debt plan so would be refusedd. Then this payday he found his card n boughy coke so I changed his pin. Then 3nights ago he stole his card after discovering he couldn’t withdraw he confessed he owd money to a dealer. Hes spent everything including the money he was meant to contribute to our sons birthday next week. Ive kicked him out n im cutting him off. Theres nothing more I can do. He needs to sink or swim. I love him so much but he loves drugs more. I hope you have made progress in your situation xxx
If you havent already Get out now before you are further invested in tgis relationship. I am going thru summit similar after 11yrs of being together a 5yr old and 4mth pregnant. He started off a cannabis user n the coke was recreational but then slowly took over until it became apparent he was a full blown addict which I discovered after I found out I was pregnant… he had to confess coz hed spent all our holiday money on it n told me 2 days before we went. Get out now n find someone who can make you happy. He will more than likely leave when he has debted you to breaking point and you cant help subsidise his addiction. Coke users are also compulsive liars in my experience too. Im beibg brutally honest.