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He hasn’t been back home, my brother has taken him in. I feel like my boundaries are strong at the moment, my plan is to support from this distance for now. It’s going to take lots of time for him to put his life into a better shape after rehab, and that’s down to him. I know he’s scared of lots of things going on right now so I am talking him through his fears but keeping a sensible gap with him. He firstly needs to see this through and although it’s booked for Monday- there are a lot of obstacles he needs to get himself through. If he wants this help (rehab) he needs to fight other escape urges he might feel to get through it

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So the update today is that he has found the funds to book into rehab after 3 days not using. He crashed through everything he had first and ended up without shelter. He has sourced a loan and given me his bank card yesterday. Funds went in today and we have both booked rehab for Monday next week.

He seems scared and relieved all at the same time. I hope this starts the help he needs

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Thank you.

I called the police tonight and they are doing a welfare check as we speak.

He’s called a helpline to say he needs help prior to knowing I’ve made the 111 call and I had received a call from them asking for £7k for his rehab which I simply can’t give… is that normal ?

He text me while paramedics there saying “thank you , I know what you’ve done for me”

Just a long road ahead now.

Boundary’s staying strong –

I can’t go back to what it was even if he gets help now.

I only want to see he’s ok. I don’t think I’ll be able to get passed all that’s Been going on. Just want us both to have a happy healthy restart in our future even if it’s not together anymore x

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Thank you for your supportive reply.

It’s now day 5 and it’s turned into suicide text messages from him. Blaming me for leaving him alone and scared. I’m sick with worry but I’ve contacted his mother to inform her of the message this morning, asked her to really consider contacting 111 but she thinks he should just go to bed….

Feeling like I need to make that call myself for him but I’ve been here before with paramedics a couple of weeks ago, he was left at his parents to make the arrangements himself which he failed to do.

Most of me sees it’s emotional blackmail because he isn’t getting his own way, then the rest of me feels like I could be letting him down by not making that call to 111.

I have no idea what to do 🙁

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