[lily1]

Hi Faye, just read your blog, its sad really sad, it is heartbreaking to lose a child especially, under these surcumstances, please don’t blame yourself, thinking you have done something wrong, drugs are rife these days and most kids seem to try it at some point, but sometimes that’s all it takes, and then they are hooked, even though I know this and say it too you, I too have blamed myself for my daughters drug abuse, talking on this site really helps as others are going through the same things, keep strong for your granddaughters sake, and live for her.xx

[lily1]

Thanks ctnm, how bad it must be too not see your grandchild, I suspect the mother know it hurts you and just wants too use your granchildas a weapon against you, how selfish, but you will know this I’m sure. I like you am finding that because I’ve been talking to others on this blog, that I too can cope better, its amazing but it really does help to talk too others, I’m not saying that it sorts anything out at home, but feel a bit different about things now, maybe I’m just kidding myself, but hey who knows,. Let me know how things go with your son, its not good to think of them in prison, hopefully it may make him think!!!! Good to talk too you.xx

[lily1]

Hi again sue, just read you blog and again its the same for me, I kept wondering where it all went wrong, I have in the past convinced myself that it must have been something I did or didn’t do that made my daughter turn to drugs, I’ve been told umpteen times it wasn’t anything to do with us, but then I think other horrible things must have happened to her, but if it did she certainly hasn’t said anything about it, I know we all blame ourselves and I’m told that’s normal, but can’t convince myself that, I’m sorry to hear you were I’ll, that can’t have been easy for you, with all the worry and stress of your son as well, but glad to hear your on the right track now, if only we could all just be happy with what we have, but I know its in our heads all the time, my husband and I can’t even go on holidays as I won’t leave my granddaughter at home alone with her , but would love a holiday and just get some me time,. You said it yourself you are the most important person in your life, stay strong and keep in touch, lily1

[lily1]

Hi and happy birthday, as I read your story it was like listening to my own life, where you have three sons I have three daughters, and my youngest has put me through the same things, I would love to say its all sorted now but the truth is it looks like it never will, the only saving grace is she has moved in with me for the sake of her child, and it means I can kind of keep an eye on her, but living with the lies has not been good I know how you feel about wishing you could just forget about him but you never will, he’s your son and there is a bond no matter what, like me just don’t forget the other boys as it probably affects them too but just don’t tell you so as not to hurt you anymore,. I hope I haven’t deppressed you that’s not my intentions, I wish you well and hope you find some peace in your life. Lily1 x

[lily1]

Hi again ctnm. Yes you ate right when you said my daughter is just going through the motions to keep us quiet, it is something I’ve known for a while, but it is just easier to believe her than have another confrontation, I’m so sick of it, we don’t have social services involved now, but that is only because she is living with us, if she wasn’t then I would do as you have done and make sure my granddaughter stayed with us, I must thank you for your support, it is good to talk to someone who knows what its like,I’m here for you too should you want to off load!!! X

[lily1]

Thanks for responding ctno, I can easily say my daughter is a great mother, and I know she loves her daughter, but even getting help and counciling she continues to use she tries to hide it but I know her too well now and I constantly check her room and handbags, and always find evidence of her using I have threatened to put her out and keep her child , and she will say she’s trying but how long do we keep going like this, I just can’t see a light at the end of a long tunnel.xx

[lily1]

Hi ladies I’ve just been reading you blog , and your stories are so like mine, it is my 30year old daughter that worries me so much, she came home to stay with me as she was pregnant , I was willing to do this as I wanted her and the baby to have a chance at a proper life, three years on I’m not sure I can take it anymore, the constant lies and sneakyness and I’m at a loss as I feel I’ve tried everything and it just isn’t working, can anyone pleeeese advise.xxx

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