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Hi rig21 I’m so sorry to read your story I cried for you and your son in fact I’ve cried most of the day before I started work at 3pm isnt it terrible the misery that they cause to themselves and the people who love them and we cant help them I’ve been trying for over 10 years now and I worn down with it …thinking of you all xx

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Hi DNAnon yes let’s try to keep our chins up ! And be happy ,cheerful and normal whatever normal feels like? I’ve had a lovely girlie day out with my two closest friends who I’ve grown up with I love them to bits my son wasn’t really mentioned just briefly I said hes not well ,they know that but hes not there son so they will never ever understand the pain of it .he has a phone at the mo or did have earlier that could now have gone for a bit of that stuff I dont even like saying the C word so I txt him to say I hope your feeling ok? Which he wont be because he is 30 and has nothing hes staying in a bloody homeless hostel with other addicts but I dont think he has actually come to terms that he is also an addict. I really dont know when this will end but hope to God it does one day xxx

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Thankyou and yes let’s keep hoping it’s nice to know another mum understands the hideous situation. Let’s keep our chins up xx

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Hi DNAnon I’ve just read your post and I feel for you very much please dont think I’m a misery or negative person but my son is 30 hes been addicted to cofr ffcaine for at least 10 years I’m sorry to say but he has had a lot of help debts paid rent paid etc he has a loving family. No kids and lost his girlfriend/best friend of 10 yrs long story but he is now in a homeless hostel he could engage with services who could help .he was supposed to meet up with me today we were going to make a curry I’d got all the ingredients. He didn’t get up he missed yet another appointment. Probation,doctors .his health is terrible he suffers with chronic asthma made worse by inhaling cocaine and whatever other shit chemicals are in it I am so sorry if I have had a rant but that’s my son .he doesn’t always have a phone but must have one tonight he txt I’m gonna keep fighting I’ve heard it all before he needs to fight a lot harder but that must be extremely difficult when you have evil drug dealing scum on your back getting you to do things for them to be rewarded with cocaine it’s a terrible cycle .sorry I needed to say it because I wait every day and hope x

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Hi I’m so sorry to hear that your son has got worse hes only young isn’t he ? You surely wouldn’t need to pay for rehab. Xx

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Hi all yes it’s a very expensive drug its evil its ruined my son’s life it’s been over 10 years of devastation hes done rehab lost his girlfriend/best friend of “all his adult life “he owns nothing sometimes not even a coat hes done the salvation army short prison spell .nothing bad as he is a lovely person”until the evil shit” hes now in a hostel but he can hopefully move forward to get a rented place we spent some time together at Christmas he was fab we had a lovely time I got my lovely boy back..let’s all keep our fingers crossed for our loved ones and hope they get through it xxx

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Hi Jennifer68 just want to say my heart goes out to you and your not pathetic.im 52 my son is 30 and a cocaine addict been were you are and still am in a way I’ve paid debts for years to hopefully stop beatings it didn’t help and I agree surely nobody would do it for the sake if £40 it’s a horrendous situation to be in but apparently I enabled my son to continue using you must say no and if he continues you must ask him to leave it took me a long time and i love my son very much but you must do it for your own sanity before you become I’ll stay strong it may get worse before it gets better..thinking of you xx

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Hi button boy that’s fantastic news I’m so happy for you but can fully understand how anxious you must be feeling ..fingers crossed hope he enjoys the party and stays strong love to you all xxx

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Sorry I should of said family member or loved one as I read the post about addicted husband and I’m truly sorry for you xxx

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Hi all yes it is devastating and rules our lives and unless it’s your child you will never understand the anxiety and heartbreak that drug addiction causes..love to you all let’s try to stay strong xxx

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Hi always hopeful and all the other parents of addicts isn’t it just heartbreaking. I’m still struggling a bit with the forum I get emails saying someone has posted on a thread? I always read them but don’t always know how to reply sorry I’m trying ????I would love to offer advice but sadly I can’t as my son’s addiction has gone on for a long time he’s 30 I have posted a lot so most of you already know but the question do they need a mentor who is now clean ? Maybe it works for a lot of people my son got back into rehab and a lovely sorry it’s sponser not mentor someone who I knew visited him a few times then my son left big mistake he stayed at the sponser s house back in the town he needed to get as far away as possible from .it was the 12 steps programme it works for some very well but not for my son it all went wrong and the sponser had to ask him to leave so there we go again back to square one so it continues I’m realy sorry if I sound negative but yes maybe a sponser can work if the addict wants it to? I think the 12 steps was a bit too much for my son unfortunately..I wish I could of made you feel better I’m just being honest about my or should I say my son’s situation and I couldn’t possibly get any worse at the moment. So let’s all try to stay strong and hope that things may get better thinking of you all xxx

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Hi to all the worried and lovely parents I’ve posted lots about my cocaine addict son. He’s in prison I actually feel less worried about his safety and well being but it’s his 30th birthday tomorrow and it’s upsetting because he has nothing other than a few clothes in a bin bag cocaine has taken everything and when he is released he will have no were to go and no coat to were .devastating for a mum but I can’t do anything more to help

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Hi Marion my heart goes out to you it’s a terrible situation to be in I’m also sorry about the loss of your brother. Sometimes we have to think of our own sanity and do what we know is right for us my son’s addiction cocaine has had a massive impact on my life and I know it’s easier for other people who don’t understand to say but please think of yourself it sounds like you’ve gone through enough already.. the worrie never goes away I hope you can be strong I know how hard it is …best wishes

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I’ve taken my son to doctors for years ..it’s been going on for 10 this year I’ve been to crisis team he’s taken an overdose been in hospital I begged and cried for help said he’s ill please help him .they did nothing I swear nobody is interested in helping if drugs are involved. I could write a book I work for social services for adults with learning disabilities. My son has mentle health probs due to evil cocaine but there’s no help with housing or even benefits for him as he’s not able to do it himself he can’t keep to appointment s or sort finances but unfortunately I can’t keep helping him so I realy don’t know what the future holds other than more anxiety and worry for mum

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Hi I was thinking earlier how good it would be if all us mum’s of addicts .who we love and try to help could all meet up to ..maybe cry together! Laugh together or maybe just chat but I suspect we all live a long way apart ? I’m in Lancashire

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