[lmanda]

I am finding your replies strong and inspirational!

Sounds so familiar I didn’t believe for a year.

Dos your husband have obsessive tendencies too?

My plan is to stay friends as I do really like him but I am quite moral or maybe my heads done in! so I can’t sleep with somebody who is lying to me.

My ex husband cheated on me with my best friend and then some so I know exactly what it’s like lying in the same bed as a liar and I can’t do it no matter how much I like him!

He is chaotic and changes his mind all the time.

I’m not one to talk anyone would think I took the drug! But I’m also bored – he sleeps all morning whilst I go for a run but I have to sneak out as he won’t let me go just wants to cuddle … it’s not even anything else lol!

We do something nice like go cycling but Always end up in a pub. Which is lovely but it ends up with drinking again and he irritates me driving with a can of cider! Who did that or needs to do that?

He’s always got a bowel problem !

Anyway I 100% want to go to a support group just wasn’t sure they be open with the covid thing?

Thanks for your reply’s keeping me strong

[lmanda]

I’m sorry to hear about your husband and for you too.

Can I ask a question……why do they do it???? I don’t understand.

Well I’ve made the move that I am insisting on being just friends. He replied actually saying to me he can’t cope with me and wants to be just friends but at the minute needs space!!!! OMG HELLO!!!

Anyway 24 hours later I find him asleep on my sofa that’s the other thing he just sleeps all the time!

I refused to engage in anything intimate which tbh he struggles with anyway but I refuse to give even a kiss on the cheek.

His friend message me and said he will soon be banging on my door! I said I don’t want him to he’s lied and I’ve been married to a liar and refuse to be in a relationship with another liar! I said you don’t shit on your own doorstep (meaning don’t ask my friend for drugs and not expect me to know!)

He must have relayed this message but instead of asking what I mean he ignores it.

Is all I keep doing when he texts or I see him is remind myself of that little white bag I found which I still don’t know what to do with!

The trouble is my cousin is an alcoholic and a cocaine user the alchol is the worst and he’s so poorly he is dying – spends most weeks in hospital and then discharging himself – my auntie is broken and I’m currently trying to help him so I really don’t need a partner who could go the same way.

It’s such a shame I love him but I can’t bear to be with someone who’s an addict and to think I gave him the benefit of the doubt and chose to believe he didn’t do it! I hate liars

How to approach this is difficult as I know he run a mile and deny I feel like I’m playing mind games with him but I want him to admit it to me

[lmanda]

I’m sorry to hear about your husband and for you too.

Can I ask a question……why do they do it???? I don’t understand.

Well I’ve made the move that I am insisting on being just friends. He replied actually saying to me he can’t cope with me and wants to be just friends but at the minute needs space!!!! OMG HELLO!!!

Anyway 24 hours later I find him asleep on my sofa that’s the other thing he just sleeps all the time!

I refused to engage in anything intimate which tbh he struggles with anyway but I refuse to give even a kiss on the cheek.

His friend message me and said he will soon be banging on my door! I said I don’t want him to he’s lied and I’ve been married to a liar and refuse to be in a relationship with another liar! I said you don’t shit on your own doorstep (meaning don’t ask my friend for drugs and not expect me to know!)

He must have relayed this message but instead of asking what I mean he ignores it.

Is all I keep doing when he texts or I see him is remind myself of that little white bag I found which I still don’t know what to do with!

The trouble is my cousin is an alcoholic and a cocaine user the alchol is the worst and he’s so poorly he is dying – spends most weeks in hospital and then discharging himself – my auntie is broken and I’m currently trying to help him so I really don’t need a partner who could go the same way.

It’s such a shame I love him but I can’t bear to be with someone who’s an addict and to think I gave him the benefit of the doubt and chose to believe he didn’t do it! I hate liars

How to approach this is difficult as I know he run a mile and deny I feel like I’m playing mind games with him but I want him to admit it to me

[lmanda]

Hi

Thanks so much for your message. I will certainly give you a call as it’s really effecting me emotionally.

I still haven’t broached the subject and feel he knows because the wallet seems to be hidden lately!!!

[lmanda]

Hi thanks for your reply

I have dropped many hints since returning from holiday but he just looks at me and says what are you talking about!

I’ve told him we can only be friends now as I don’t trust him and yet I am still to drop the bombshell of what I found because I was wrong to go in his wallet! And I’m afraid even if I give him the bag of cocaine back he will deny it.

When approached him in the past I have said if you tell me the truth I will help you if you have a problem.

He went mad and walked off as usual! So I won’t be offering help again if he was to admit it!

So what do I do with the bag ? And do I tell him what I’ve found? I am scared of how to approach him.

He thinks I’m joking about just being friends but I am not

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