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Hiya,

So sorry to hear you are a in a similar situation – cocaine really does destroy lives and totally changes a person doesn’t it I honestly can’t believe the difference! Feel like I’m always walking on eggshells never knowing how things are going to be from one day to the next – it’s pretty awful to go through isn’t it the whole situation.

Glad to hear you have your family/friends to talk to about it – it must really help! I am just so embarrassed about it all I don’t think I can reach out unfortunately, but it does make me feel very alone. I am glad I have found this site, but sorry to see so many people going through similar situations 🙁

The behaviour is so erratic isn’t it – the comedowns are just hurrendous! Never know whats going on from one minute to the next.

Yes I know there is always that hope that it will change and the person will return, but as you say it’s false hope and empty promises.

Sorry to hear he hasnt been spending much time with your daughter – must be so difficult.

Everything you have said I can really relate to – thanks so much for responding. I hope you are doing ok, stay strong!

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Hi both, just looking through the posts and this situation is so similar to mine – how are you both doing now?

It’s beneficial to see the other post from the addicts perspective also!

I am just so lost, not sure where to turn just trying to get through each day. But the empty promises and the stress and impact of it all is really getting me down and I feel so low.

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Hi both, just looking through the posts and this situation is so similar to mine – how are you both doing now?

It’s beneficial to see the other post from the addicts perspective also!

I am just so lost, not sure where to turn just trying to get through each day. But the empty promises and the stress and impact of it all is really getting me down and I feel so low.

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Hi I’m so sorry for the delay in replying – had a pretty tough week! My partner’s been doing it around 9 years, it’s so difficult isn’t it. Some times more than others but never seems to go away for more than a few weeks unfortunately – and that’s what I know about (dread to think about what I don’t!)

I’m so sorry to hear that – it’s crazy how much it changes them isn’t it? Almost like they are a completely different person, it’s just heartbreaking!

I am the same I don’t really look after myself properly either – always seem to put him first before me, need to give myself a good shake sometimes because nothing I do seems to help anyway unfortunately!

I am also embarrassed to speak to my family or friends – I spoke to one friend in previous years but she was very judgemental and didn’t understand at all. I think it’s one of those things that unless you have been through it you don’t really know the extent of the impact it can have.

I’m at a stage where I really don’t know where to turn or what to do next! Feel like I’m always trying to put a front on and make out everything is ok but deep down I’m completely broken.

How have things been for you recently? I hope you are ok..

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Thanks for your reply – sorry to hear you are in this situation too!

The come downs are horrific aren’t they? I’m the same, always to blame and as you say don’t get to look after myself either and it really does affect you after a while.

I think the empty promises and the hoping they will give up is just so difficult – the way they act and decisions they make are totally out of our control and it’s so hard to deal with and frustrating because it impacts the whole family in various ways! Just wish I had the answers.

I feel like this about the moods too – never know if it’s going to be a good day where he is feeling ok or absolutley hurrendous! Feel like I’m always worrying if he has done it, always looking out for the signs and it’s just taken the enjoyment out of everything because I can’t relax and feel like my whole life revolves around it.

Always think back around the times before he started doing it, just hoping and wishing it will go back to that but to be honest I think I am wishful thinking unfortunately!

Has your partner been doing it for a long period of time? I find it so hard because I don’t really speak to anyone about it and try to hide it all the time which obviously doesn’t help how I’m feeling.

Thanks

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