[louise123]

Yes it is x

[louise123]

Hello,

if you think you have a problem it is the time now to do something about it, belive me I know I was with an addict for 5 years. An alcoholic and a heroin addict, hes been to rehab twice aa meetings other meetings with the organisation hes involved with.

Apparently hes off to rehab again. Third time lucky I guess.

But none can do this for you, if you really want to get sober then you must want to do it for yourself. X

[louise123]

I can relate to your story big time. When I was reading what has happened to you, it took me back I thought we were living pretty much the same life.

Unless you have been in this position yourself none will understand the pain and torture you have actually been through.

I have lied done things I am not proud of to protect this man, because you are manipulated into doing things that you never thought was possible. You look back on and you think why did i do these things!

To start off with its little things then it gets bigger as time goes by, before you know it your into deep yourself. All the promises they have made to you and you belive they can change. You belive there is light at the end of the tunnel for them, so we stay it doesnt matter how bad we are feeling inside and what they have done to us we support them. We put them first because they need support but through this we are losing ourselves. Xx

[louise123]

Be strong and remember your not on your own x

[louise123]

Hi I’ve just read your story,

It’s so difficult dealing with someone with addiction and mental health at the same time.

It’s very difficult walking away from someone you love but when children are involved you have to do what’s best for your children and your own sake.

It is a rollercoaster and they will take you on that journey belive me I know. But you have to do what’s best for you, hopefully he will seek the help he needs xx

[louise123]

Thankyou for saying all that, I am getting there I have a good therapist that has helped me alot over the last few months. You never think this will happen to you but when it does and you cant see it until it’s to late, the feeling of betrayal and everything you have done for that person and how you let them is unbelievable. I feel like I’ve been stabbed and stabbed over again in the heart. While your suffering and having to deal with being pregnant and all these extra emotions floating around they are just out down the pub not a care in the world. I sold my pram a week ago as I bought a brand new one and he only wanted half the money for it because he contributed to it, one thing he ever helped pay for, I nearly gave it to him until someone talked some sense into me, I didnt want the money so I gave it to a charity xxx.

[louise123]

Thankyou so much I am due next week and I’m so excited to becoming a mother again especially to this child, this baby will have all the love and attention it will ever need from me, we do not need someone like that in our lives. I realise that now. This man has taken so much from me but one thing he will never have is these children. He missed out on 3 children soon to be 4 children because of his addiction. I never left the children with him because I was always worried incase he was drunk and what kind of person would that make me leaving my children with someone like that. My children are my life and I will always put them first. At the same time I’m so sad its come to this, I never deserved what happened to me i never asked for it and i felt i was weak in letting someone manipulate me in that way for years. I just now feel used. Now I know this man is not capable of love. I was never his first love alcohol/drugs was. Xx

[louise123]

Thankyou for your kind words that’s a lovely thing to say. The man has put me through hell and back he gets to move on with his life, but actually hes not moving on hes doing same thing hes always done. I feel sorry for this women because she does not know what’s coming, this man has Had thousands from me like your self, and left me in debt.

Only 6 weeks ago he contacted me declared his love for me yet again, made me all the promises in the world.

Luckily this time I was more guarded, but he got in my head. He wanted to see me so I did meet with him even with the advice of my solicitor not to. I needed to hear what he had to say, as he never gave me closure. He didn’t even know I was still pregnant he thought I had a termination, I couldnt go through with it as I was 24 weeks and when I went to see the consultant in London because I’m high risk, the procedure they have to do and because its baby I would of had to have sign papers for a burial I couldn’t do it. He new I was going to London he wouldn’t even stand by me like I said he completely turned his back on me. I remember sat in the hospital in london thinking what the hell has this man done to me. He is not the person I thought he was.

I made the decision then I did not love him anymore.

As far as I’m concerned he has no rights to this baby or my other children. It’s ok when you have no responsibility isn’t it. Xxx

[louise123]

Its awful beth it really it how we get stuck between it all. I have just shared my story please read it.xx

[louise123]

When you are in the situation you can not see it yourself, even when family and friends are telling you, you get sucked into there lives and all you can think about is helping him. You start to lie because it’s easier than facing up to the truth. You love them unconditionally even what they do to you, all promises are empty, When you say it out loud to yourself or talk to someone regarding it you are like I cant belive I did those things. Trying to pick up the pieces is hard especially when children are involved. I’ve being seeing a councillor for months its helping but the pain is still there how I let a man do this to me and I have wasted 5 years of my life trying to make it work and all the money he has had out of me. I’m going to share my story please have a read. X

[louise123]

Hello Beth I have not had chance to share my story yet, alot of what you have been through I can relate to. It’s very hard being with an addict as they drag you into a world that you never thought you would be apart of.

Addicts are very good at manipulating you into getting what they want, at the time you cannot see what they are doing to you and before long you are in to deep and doing things that you normally would never do. All addicts are selfish and do not care about anyone just where there next drink /drugs are coming from. It’s a rollercoaster and I’m affaird we go along for the ride. X

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