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Please do, you need support for your situation and it’s hard to find, but don’t feel like your on your own because you’re not there are many of us in the same situation, Georgia on here has much more experience of the situation than me and she has helped me- she told me to leave my ex and tbh it was for the best, it’s tough but worth it as my situation was just getting worse he’s promised everything but no actions have backed it up and tough love was needed- you’ll see that with your partner in the end but it takes a while and a lot of heartache to get there, he might come good but the odds are not great- keep strong and take care. Lou x
Hi there Jeanette I hope you’re bearing up, my friends have also told me to run for the hills but your right it doesn’t help, when you’re in love with an addict it’s hard to walk away, because you’re scared of the consequences for yourself and your partner but the truth is if you stay it might not get better but you hold on to the fact it might, and the person you fell in love with will come back – it’s tough and there’s no easy option, you need to do what’s best for you, no one else, and keep strong- lou
Hi there chic – how are you doing? Lou
i took tramodol for ages and it was hard getting off – I ended up in hospital so I know where you’re coming from lou
Can I ask what prescription medication your talking about?
Hi Elizcol, try FRANK they gave me some useful contact numbers in my area – just google FRANK honestly they don’t judge and are pretty useful mostly. Although I’ll be honest I don’t rate NHS support networks but FRANK is independent and it’s all confidential- Lou
Ps it’s harsh to say but he is putting crack before you and the kids, but that’s addiction- it’s insidious it gets in to and takes over everything to a point that nothing else matters. Try not to take his choices personally he’s not in control anymore and needs help, I know how you feel it’s like being cheated on, but I’ve learnt that an addicts brain works differently to ours, especially stuff like coke and crack really messes up your thinking more so than heroin I think that’s more of a physical addiction, psychological addictions are as bad just in a different way. Your priorities are yourself and your kids chic, if they weren’t with you how would you feel? I know I’d be devastated to lose my son but social services are a bitch once they get involved and it only takes one person to say something out of line – I know and it’s not worth it believe me- lou x
Crack is a horrible drug, so very addictive I feel for you. Stay strong and believe you deserve a good life with or without your partner your the only one who can decide that, it doesn’t matter how much people tell you to get out you have to come to that decision yourself- your heart has to be in it because it gets v hard indeed. Good luck lou
Hi there, I’m sorry you feel alone chic I do too sometimes it’s hard being with an addict you feel it’s 2 steps forward three steps back all the time however I would like to offer you some hope That it can get better, i’m living proof of that. I have been with an alcoholic and it’s soul destroying but he hit rock bottom and got better after that, in fortunately we didn’t work out but that was not because of the drink, he now has a family of his own and a v good job and we are still friends- The cold hard truth says someone will only do it when their as low as they can get and have no other option. That’s the truth. I’ll keep in touch and stay strong. Louise
That’s an amazing piece of writing and very true. Thanks for that I can think of many people who would benefit from reading that. Lou
Thanks NaNs I appreciate your response. You’re right what you say you never fully appreciate the problems people go through until it’s on your doorstep. You sound like you’re very strong and you should remember that, don’t worry about what other people think that’s a slippery slope and hard to get off- The only thing that matters is what you think and what you think is the best thing to do – and I’m sure you know what that is, Lou x
I understand what you’re saying Danman and thank you for your response it does really help me, honestly it does, do you and your GF live together? I worry if my partner is on a night out, which isn’t v often tbh – because he’s always skint – I always paid when we went
out even though he’s on a much better salary than me, but his wages don’t last long after the first week, for obvious reasons- he’s supposed to be going out tmw with work so I’m stressing about it already – get that head out your ass chic you’ll be fine your stronger than u think -lou
Are you ok danman? Lou
Please believe that things get better curly c – because they do but you can’t always see that when grieving and you’ve gone through a horrendous loss it’s hard to imagine how you feel- stay strong and look after yourself x Lou x
I’ll talk to you, don’t think you’re alone because there are so many people in our situation it’s horrible I know, but you need support and talking about it helps. My advice is talk about stuff. It does help. I love an addict and I’ve drove him to pick up his fix too and it makes me feel ashamed and like I’m encouraging his addiction but he’s so persistent and persuasive I give in in the end but I know it’s the wrong thing to do deep down. I’m sorry you feel alone it’s a lonely and horrible feeling but message me anytime you want to x Lou x