[loulou1649]

Thats interesting donthaveaclue, fingers crossed we get somewhere with diagnosing him this time.

Whymee So sorry to hear about what youve been through. Do you mind if I ask are you on prescription drugs for the adhd?

I really wish the best for you and my partner. I wish there was an easier way of getting and staying clean but it seems a massive battle and one that is hard on everyone involved not just the person going through it.

I really want to see this through with my partner but I know I will snap one day and say enough is enough. I just hope it doesn’t get to that.

I wish you all the best.

[loulou1649]

Thank you Lindyloo and donthaveaclue for your replies.

The ADHD is an issue I want to resolve now and I am going to push for this to be recognised first as it seems the easiest hurdle and after the last few weeks he wants help so its a good time. He has blocked all his drug friends numbers and has also decided to leave the job that was causing him stress so fingers crossed we can make a little progress.

I have told him I will be fine without him and the way he is behaving is pushing me away and he is terrified now of losing us as he has obviously been here many times in the past but at nearly 40 he said he would rather kill himself than start over again as if it cant work with me, it will work with nobody. I have told him I will stick by him as long as we are working together and its not just me picking up the pieces all the time.

He has never been away 3 times in the same month which is why I reached breaking point this time. My kids dont see the worst but can tell if im upset and im quite open with my older boys. They know he has some kind of condition as he is very hyper and they take it in their stride and we make jokes about it and can talk openly about things. He has told them about drugs and dealers and the life he has lived and hopefully by being open they will be resilient to it.

Well done to your son Lindyloo on 9 months clean you must be so proud and im sure your support helped massively.

Im sorry to hear about your partner donthaveaclue and if it got to that stage I wouldnt hang around either it must be awful and he must be like a stranger to you as mine is when he is under the influence. It hurts so much more with children involved too. I wish you all the luck in the world in the future and hopefully losing you both will give him a kick up the backside to get clean x

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