[lucy19]

Really feel for you as your situation sounds as desperate as mine ☹️

Other people judge and don’t understand why we stay, I’m the same still in love with him. Since I wrote my post my situation has esculated and spiraled. Myself and grown up son confronted him about his drinking and behaviours. It’s back fired on me and a few weeks back he decided he no longer loves me and wants out of our relationship. I then found out he’s been involved with another woman at some level, he swears no more than friends but as he’s lied so much I no longer trust him. I’ve begged and pleaded but he’s made his mind up that he does have issues but he can’t tackle them with me in his life. Therefor he’s decided to leave me and family at end of month. Me and my kids have also got to move now as we can’t afford our current home without his income. I’ve ended up on antidepressants myself because of everything he’s put me through. We’re barely communicating right now and it’s really sad as I no longer have any idea who he is. I don’t believe he will change when he’s moved out ,he just doesn’t want to hear me telling him he has issues, because he knows this to be true but is too scared to deal with it. I really hope for your and kids sake that you have a better ending than me and mine xx

[lucy19]

I’m so very sorry to hear your story , I dispair why they do this ,I think deep down they don’t want to be that person but the pull of the drink is just too much sometimes. I completely understand your anxiety and worry x

[lucy19]

Really feel for you all, awful situation . Im also so glad I found this forum as you often feel alone. Let’s all just keep talking when we need to as it does help. Best wishes to all xx

[lucy19]

Sounds very much like my fiance. He can have a drink somedays and be fine another time he turns. he doesn’t drink everyday but when he does he’s the same, he doesn’t know when to stop.

[lucy19]

Thankyou for your reply, it really does mean a lot. My son actually plucked up the courage to speak to his dad , first time and it broke him. It broke me knowing he’s had to do it and my partner looks broken since they chatted. he hasn’t drank in 5 days now but Im sure it will come at some point. I know what you mean about your mom, I feel same way about him. How can I hate him when he’s back to normal, but I do resent him for putting us through it. I’m angry with myself that our kids memories will have happy times but also some scarey ones from after effects of his drinking. He seems more distant than usual at moment, goes to work then home to bed. He seems agitated with me pretty much all the time. I have constant sick feeling that when he drinks everything he’s bottling up right now will pour out. You keep safe too x

[lucy19]

I feel so sad reading all your stories, mine is much the same. I feel slightly less alone having this forum to share. I’m currently sleeping on my settee so I can keep out of the way of my currently verbally aggressive fiance. Knowing my grown up children have had to listen to his crap all day is making me feel even sadder. I love my fiance with everything I have when he’s sober he’s the best , but sometimes when drunk he turns. He even looks different, it’s his eyes I actually think he’s evil and tbh I hate him. I despair that this situation never ends, constant vicious circle which is mentally and physically draining . With u all in thought xx

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