[lucy28]

I remember my Mum went to a carer meeting and by her or us giving him money we are being his enablers.

I wish someone would just give me an answer or the right or wrong thing to do xx

[lucy28]

Thank you. I think you are doing the right thing telling your daughter she is not and will not be responsible for him.

Addicts are very selfish and manipulative and i wish i could like you practice what I preach and leave him to get on with it.

It is very easy when you are not in the situation so i never speak about him now to my husband because its not worth the hassle.

[lucy28]

I totally understand, my brother has avoided prison in his 37 years and there are times I’d wished he was there but like you say they are full of drugs.

Since i last posted.my brother has texted me and his older brother asking for money for “beer” but i know the desperation he’s in it must be for drugs………and so it goes on!

[lucy28]

My Mum was my twin brothers main carer after my dad died of lung cancer. My brother was drinking drugs crack, she had to sleep with her bag because he’d steal was intimidating. She did everything for him she got him supported housing rehab etc, collected prescriptions he took over her life and i said to her if anything ever happens to you I am not doing it neither his older brother as we have our own young families. Mum died suddenly, i did actually help him move in to another place but he mucked it up again and again and again. He ended up sleeping rough as i couldn’t have him around my kids with his lifestyle again and i was grieving.

Anyway he ended up in hosp with pneumonia and because he had no one else he got put into a hostel and now has a flat. Sometimes if people know there is a support network there they are reluctant to help.

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