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Hey cally1001
Thankyou so much for taking the time to reply to me.
I realise my ex has an addictive personality and doesn’t accept his problem but rather sees it as a phase!!! I’m also codependent and realise this is just not healthy for either of us. It’s such a difficult situation when you love someone and excuse the behaviour because of the drugs thinking it’s not really them and hope they will eventually see the ‘light’. I can’t see this happening anytime soon so just want to save myself any more hurt.
One year has been enough.!!!!
Your reply is an inspiration to me and truly admire your strength in moving forward. Thankyou so much again fr sharing
Hi Kim 32
My situation is similar to yours my ex boyfriend is a daily drug user. I was also unaware of his addictions drink, weed coke. The coke is the worst he spends all his money on it but works and is functioning. I also wasn’t aware of his past. He became bankrupt and lost his family too and owes money to dealers.
I’m ashamed of giving him so many chances and can’t speak to my family as I’m so ashamed of letting myself fall in love with this man. I have a teenage daughter who’s struggling with lockdown and has also been affected by the hurt in this relationship. He’s broken dates promises to her and I feel ashamed I’ve exposed her to this toxic addict.. I finished with him AGAIN but he keeps texting and pulling me back!!
I feel torn as I love him but just know I deserve better as does my daughter. Reading the threads have helped me as although we don’t live together I’ve learned how bad it can get!!! I don’t want to give up my home relationship with my daughter and family to someone who doesn’t give back the love and support I give to him. I know we have to be strong and now think of ourselves and kids but it’s sooo hard when you love someone and have no support
Oh Thankyou for this !!!
I’ve recently split from my coke addict boyfriend who I found out also deals. I’m really struggling as he continues to contact me and I find I want to be his friend but.hate his lifestyle. Now I’m just thinking in order to get on with my life I need to cut ties and your post is an inspiration to me. I’ve no support at all and feel I’m going through this alone
Hi Joanne
Reading your thread made cry as it’s exactly what my boyfriend did before I ended it recently. I’m heartbroken spending Christmas alone and wondering why he choose his lifestyle over me ???? I was a good girlfriend to him but he seems to rather spend his days on dope and coke. Seeing you have an issue is a start being an addict will never bring you healthy happiness and you will loose good friends family and relationships
Don’t ever feel like a failure for seeking help
Codiene addiction is not an easy one to fix, You need professional help my cousin went through it for over 10 years and his health and relationships suffered considerably
You need to be a well person for your family and any understanding doctor will point you in the right direction without being judgmental