[mary12]

Thanks for your reply. We as a family are giving her the chance to recover with AA. She has meetings booked in next week and a job to start in a week. Been there so many times. We have been advised, and are in touch now by a recovering alcoholic who works within the AA to actually confirm that when she goes home this week that we will support her but will all block our phones if she drinks. I feel that we are finally able to let her go now that we have spoken to an alcoholic in recovery. He’s told us he guaranteed that she will will lose her house and job if she carries on without her choice to choose help. So this is finally it we will be released from this hell. As a family you don’t know if your doing the right or wrong thing but picking her up every time she falls is enabling and now it’s no more. When she goes home it maybe the last time we see her but that’s the way it is and I’m looking forward to the peace. Of course we’ll think about her but the pain from seeing her sat in her own mess and her sons in pain is a hundred times worse. She has been told by the recovering alcoholic that she will get everything back if she wants to in the end but she has to choose this. We’ve been given permission to finally let her go.

[mary12]

Thanks Nick for your reply. She’s been to two rehabs and AA and other organizations and relapses each time. You’d think losing your children would stop her. Its the roof over her head and her phone that has priority. She made sure before this last binge that they were paid for the month. Its so sad but such a selfish choice. I do believe it is a choice and she actually stayed clean f a year until she got her younger child back last time, but once the child was back one week later she sneakily had three glasses of wine believing she would be ok. We can’t help anymore. This episode could last weeks or months or till the credit card wing pay Uber.

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