[michelle.hourigan@live.ie]

I have made the decision to leave my partner. I am just struggling with guilt as I feel like i am leaving him at his most vaulnerable. I only feel pity for him there is no love left anymore. Does anyone who has left their addict partner have any advice on how to deal with the guilt ..thanks

[michelle.hourigan@live.ie]

Hi sorry to hear your situation. I am going through the same thing I am with my partner 5 years but even after 2 I could see signs of alcohol and drug abuse ..I thought he would change once we moved in together..he has tried get help but every few weeks he had a binge f alcohol and coke ..I know I have no future with this man .we can never get a mortgage he doesn’t have savings I accept our relationship is over..I am still here because I know if I leave him he has noone and will end up homeless or dead . I’m still here out of guilt but have decided I can’t do it any more ..on his sober days I love him but there are too few .he holds down a job but every day off he has he is drunk ..so we have no days out ..either he is hungover or has no money I am so lucky we don’t have kids ..my advice to you is give him an utalimun now to get help and follow up on it don’t trust him to tell you he is changing .don’t waste 5 years like I have. I am 35 also and I’m a little scared of being alone but there will be a huge weight lifted off when I don’t need to worry wat I will come home to .we are both still young and will meet the right person. Take care

[michelle.hourigan@live.ie]

Thanks so much

[michelle.hourigan@live.ie]

Thanks..he has started seeing a counsellor once a week he was doing good didn’t do any drink or drugs for 11 days but tonight we have a stupid fight (nothing related to his drinking ) he got angry stormed off bought a shoulder of vodka I said nothing when he came in he then told me he was getting more when he came back the second time I said to him you haven’t opened it yet you can still change the situation he didn’t listen he went into the room and drank it and then he went and got cocaine. I said nothing there is no point . Last week he was talking bout us buying a house what a joke . This guy is so unreliable i can’t plan a future to be honest not even sure if I love hime any more..time to go I think .

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