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Hi I am Chris and like you all I am looking for advice and if i can reciprocate I am happy to do so. Trapped if you prefer this name so be it, the first thing you need to understand is that your story is one that many, perhaps millions of us in different languages share, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. your son is like so many of our sons and have become I am dealing with a step son who since 2002 was thown to me when his mum became tired (with reason of his addiction) and then while I tidied him up and got him back on the rails an SMS would arrive, come home and he would leave until he was thown out again and guess who picked him up at the railway station or the crossroads at midnight, me, just like you. You cannot give him money, it will be used for drugs even €10 euro is enough. I sent mine away this weekend having stolen 2 iPhones and some money (actually quite a lot) Sunday night to get heroin while our families here in Italy were watching the World Cup Final. He thought I did, nor Ana my partner that he was taking his Minias but we went to check up on him and he had stolen €50 from her handbag thinking he could get back go to bed with “a bad stomach” before we returned home from our next door neighbours and we would not notice. NAH wrong mate! I went to check if he was Ok but no he was gone car keys money, i told him 1-2 but not three, expelled now what do we do with him, tonight he sleeps under the trees in Northern Italy, that is his choice with 2 packs of cigarettes and a car he stole from his Mum, could we do something more for him, yes i could but i would welcome your thoughts, thanks.
Hi I am Chris and like you all I am looking for advice and if i can reciprocate I am happy to do so. Trapped if you prefer this name so be it, the first thing you need to understand is that your story is one that many, perhaps millions of us in different languages share, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. your son is like so many of our sons and have become I am dealing with a step son who since 2002 was thown to me when his mum became tired (with reason of his addiction) and then while I tidied him up and got him back on the rails an SMS would arrive, come home and he would leave until he was thown out again and guess who picked him up at the railway station or the crossroads at midnight, me, just like you. You cannot give him money, it will be used for drugs even €10 euro is enough. I sent mine away this weekend having stolen 2 iPhones and some money (actually quite a lot) Sunday night to get heroin while our families here in Italy were watching the World Cup Final. He thought I did, nor Ana my partner that he was taking his Minias but we went to check up on him and he had stolen €50 from her handbag thinking he could get back go to bed with “a bad stomach” before we returned home from our next door neighbours and we would not notice. NAH wrong mate! I went to check if he was Ok but no he was gone car keys money, i told him 1-2 but not three, expelled now what do we do with him, tonight he sleeps under the trees in Northern Italy, that is his choice with 2 packs of cigarettes and a car he stole from his Mum, could we do something more for him, yes i could but i would welcome your thoughts, thanks.
Hi Suzie, I am not a doctor or anything just some guy living in Italy with a step son who has been doing the same as your boyfriend for 12 years. You have a simple question to ask of yourself and your boyfriend, that is which is most important me, you or your coke? Spoken quietly in the cold light of dawn at the kitchen table with unblinking eyes. If he has the resolve or the basic human ability to recognize pure love he will understand you. Think of this there is a road with a crossroads one points to the left, you decide, love me and leave the crap behind, one points to the right embrace your dependency and leave me and all that you care for behind! I say this because i am facing the same situation with my step son who tonight is sleeping in his car having robbed me and my neighbors on Sunday night before running out to get a heroin fix and imagining he could have got home before we noticed, but as i went to check that he had not taken his Lorenzepam before bed I found that he had gone. Suzie we need to be firm. good luck and keeep me informed about how you get on. Chris from Italy