I’m so sorry. My son is 21 and I fear the same for him.. But he won’t accept thAt is has consequences.. That nothing will happen to him…wish u love and NO you have not gone wrong. My son has been privately educated. 5star holidays, beautiful home and so on and showered with love from a very close family of cousins etc. he has fantastic role models. I just don’t know the answer but we are not to blame.. Although my mum always said we spoilt him to much..how canyon spoil your own child too much…???but maybe I see her point…I don’t know anymore…