Thank you for your response. No it’s not what I want for my future. I’m seeking help for my mental health, and trying to join a support group. All of this is new to me and is overwhelming at times and I know I need to face the truth. I tried setting boundaries and it didn’t work. In all honesty I want to save him and coming to the realisation that I can’t is hard to face. Your right he is an adult and he can only save himself.