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Sorry Kate1… I got distracted from your original question…what should you do about it.
I find great support from a guy called Eckhart Tolle, a spiritualist/mystic living in Canada. He is particularly famous for a book called ‘The Power of Now’. This is one of his quotes that I refer back to often in moments of crisis:
“If you find your here and now intolerable and it makes you unhappy, you have three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it totally.”
I hope it helps you too.
It seems that so many of us are in the same boat. So difficult. We have a28 year old son struggling with cocaine and alcohol addiction and all the debts that come with it. I wish we knew what to do. Counselling options and/or rehab are so inaccessible and too few and too expensive. But I too totally understand that even if these services were accessible, there is still the problem of getting the person who needs it to agree that they need it and to do something about it themselves! You can take a horse to water…etc!
I wish I could get my son to just walk……plan a route and walk it…away from all the triggers. A long distance walk over a long period. I think it’s a great healer. He wouldn’t have to go it alone. But!!! He has to want it. Maybe he hasn’t hit rock bottom yet because we keep bailing him out. We are tightening his conditions of staying here with us and have said that if he can’t abide by them he’ll have to leave. We’ll just have to see. Maybe it’s me who needs that healing walk. Anyone else feel the same?