[mumtothree]

Sorry I meant he pays off whoever he owes first

[mumtothree]

Thank you so much for responding. I really appreciate and take in everything you have said.

His parents don’t want no involvement with him anymore. They are absolutely disgusted what he has put his family through to the point there’s no money to pay the bills or feed the children. I will ask if they would be prepared to sit down with me and him but I can’t see it happening. I’ll let you know.

The problem is I sat him down this same time last month and laid it all out in the line. I said there’s no more back ups, both parents have helped us out financially to just buy food and household bits but they’ve now both stretched themselves to their limits (they’re all retired). I said if he didn’t start getting the proper help and show me an improvement in this months wage then that’s it. I can’t afford to have him here anymore. I’m not naive and understand it’s going to take time but there was literally no improvement at all this month. For the last 9 months I’ve been given him another chance to sort it out but it’s still not happening. I feel like I don’t have a choice anymore.

When you started going to your meetings how long did it take you to stop. I know you’ve had a few relapses since but initially when did you stop and how did you feel when you did? Sorry to ask what is probably such a personal thing.

Oh my husband does drink. He’ll quite happily drink 4 ciders every evening but he says he uses during the day rather than at night. He doesn’t really have any friends so doesn’t go out after work or at weekends. If his work found out he’d immediately get the sack due to his job.

Oh and he pays his wages straight into my account on my payday but he pays off a by at he owes first. Personally I don’t understand why anyone would be happy to lend that sort of money on a monthly basis. I always thought you had to pay for drugs when you get it. Is that right?

Thank you again for helping!!

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