Hi there! It’s totally understandable to want to seek advice and support from others outside of your immediate friend group. It sounds like you’re going through a really tough time with your husband’s drinking habits and the impact it’s having on your relationship. It’s great that you’re aware of the situation and trying to take action to divert him to the toilet and address the ED issue, but it’s also important to take care of your own well-being.
Have you considered personalized gifts for your husband as a way to express your feelings and possibly help him see the impact of his behavior on your family? Sometimes a thoughtful, personalized gesture can have a big impact. But ultimately, the decision to stay or leave is a deeply personal one and you should prioritize your own happiness and safety.