[nicole03]

Thanks so much. He’s admitted he’s still using but we’ve spoken to the GP now and hes on meds for his mood (low mood is a trigger for use) and we’re seeking therapy. I’m giving him a chance but absolutely I don’t want to be here in 4 years if nothing changes.

Thanks so much for the support and I’m sending you the same x

[nicole03]

Thank you, I appreciate your reply.

I feel a lot of responsibility for him and therefore a lot of guilt in leaving when he so evidently needs support. I am also of course so sad because there are many brilliant things about him that I would miss. He’s had a very tough upbringing that’s lead him here.

Was your ex partner okay when you left or did you have to cut ties completely? I hope you don’t mind me asking.

[nicole03]

If anyone has any advice I’d really appreciate it.

[nicole03]

I’m so sorry to hear about all of your stories but also glad it is not just me.

My bf of 10 years has been using on and off for 4 years. I found out just before Christmas and he said he’d stop but I’m fairly sure he’s still using. It’s so hard but if he’s not going to be honest I feel like I can’t help him.

I bought cocaine tests online and he won’t do them, I feel like thats a massive red flag. I don’t feel nice asking him to do them but if he’s denying using and I think he is, I don’t see another way. If he keeps saying no I think I have to leave. We own a house together but luckily I can go to my parents.

I feel awful abandoning him when I can see he is struggling (he is also on anti depressants). But me being miserable is also not going to help him…

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