[nijo]

Hi, do what you feel is right for you and not what everyone else says you should do, whether that is kicking him out or letting him stay. Everyone copes differently to these situations and as you’re the one living in this hell at the moment do what feels right for you then start putting boundaries in place and sticking to them, not easy I know. I couldn’t kick my son out, I just couldn’t do it and that was when I decided to try and get some sort of control over this devastating time. After I was arrested because of him (allowing drugs to be used in my home) the empty threats from me stopped and boundaries (though very small ones to begin with) were put in place, not easy and not an overnight job either. Try speaking to your son when you’re sure he hasn’t taken anything and keep calm, tell him you love him and are there for when he wants to talk, get help etc. Please believe there is hope for you but at the minute you might not think so, after a couple of stints in a Young Offenders Centre, my son 23, is now settled and doing a criminology degree.

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