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Thank you so much for replying. My problem is, we have a 1 and 2 year old, and he is getting us into thousands and thousands worth of debt….£15k so far. Where does it end? He’s preventing us as a family moving forward, because we have SO MUCH DEBT.
He’s actually had his first meeting right now, he says he wants to get better but I just found out he got a quick loan for £1500 yday and has already spent £500 on coke and did it all last night. But he acts normal, is like it doesn’t affect him anymore. I just dunno how much more debt and lies I’m ‘supposed’ to put up with before I leave.
When your husband relapses, how long is it for? Is it a random night doing it? Or does he hide it for ages and wrack up a load of loans? My husband is the latter so I’m going to have to leave soon if he doesn’t change. I so desperately want my kids to grow up with us all under the same household ????
Thank you so much for replying. My problem is, we have a 1 and 2 year old, and he is getting us into thousands and thousands worth of debt….£15k so far. Where does it end? He’s preventing us as a family moving forward, because we have SO MUCH DEBT.
He’s actually had his first meeting right now, he says he wants to get better but I just found out he got a quick loan for £1500 yday and has already spent £500 on coke and did it all last night. But he acts normal, is like it doesn’t affect him anymore. I just dunno how much more debt and lies I’m ‘supposed’ to put up with before I leave.
When your husband relapses, how long is it for? Is it a random night doing it? Or does he hide it for ages and wrack up a load of loans? My husband is the latter so I’m going to have to leave soon if he doesn’t change. I so desperately want my kids to grow up with us all under the same household ????
Hiya, I’ve just been reading all these posts as I’ve just found out my husband has been doing coke every day for the past 6 weeks. And a lot. Like 70 grams. And got £13k worth of loans. We have a 1 year old and a 2 year old. I feel sick, physically sick. I don’t know what to do, I really really don’t.
He has said he wants to stop, he has contacted private health and is getting councilling, something called schema which is meant to be excellent. He has found a cocaine addiction group where we are and will be going there…all these things he has proactively done himself. So part of me thinks…ok…that’s good, isn’t it?? BUT I can’t trust him? That much in such a short space of time. And 13 THOUSAND POUNDS!?? WTF! and I’m not stupid, I know he will relapse and get it again. Even if he doesn’t want to, it will happen, because it just does, doesn’t it?
Has anyone who’s posted previous to this actually came out the other end ok in their relationship?
He’s got such a good heart, he’s a fantastic dad, a brilliant husband. Just a good person. We had only been together 3 weeks and all my hair fell out and he didn’t bat an eyelid. His heart his very kind. But…this is just…I dunno, it’s another level of lying, sneaking around etc.
Anyone with any words of wisdom?